Friday, July 13, 2018
For years I had to listen to my Father harp at my Mother for not being able to figure out the TV, the remote control and the cable box.
Funny how life bytes you in the A$$ when you do that kind of thing.
Not sure when it started but the picture on my dad's TV went black around midnight, or when he woke up, or sometime before whenever.
He had someone reboot the cable box, had sound but no picture and was content to listen until it was a reasonable hour to call someone for help. Kudos. BUT... Who did he call? The person who WORKED for the cable company and with TVs for 16 years? Nah!
He did call my sister because she was able to fix one of their HD TVs by buying some kind of circuit board, although he believed it to be the cable and not the TV.
So, she called me. I called him. It was like I was talking to my Mom when she had cable problems. The only difference was... my Mom would say, "yes, I see it, OK, let me try that, I'll check", etc.
With Dad, now, after all these years you get... "Well, I don't know about that., What do you mean, the TV remote?, That's NOT what it says., I don't know", or a big fat silence, which either means, he didn't hear me, he found it or he's not understanding - any of which would prompt a reply from anyone else on God's green earth, but not Ralph.
Don't get me wrong... I don't mind helping him at all, but really... put forth just a little bit of effort, will ya, puhlease? He does it so easily for the caregivers at his home, but for the 4 of us, not so much. We all know, we all try to work around it, but I fail miserable on some levels.
Not sure exactly when this all started, but it culminated with me taking a trip, troubleshooting at his home, ordering a new TV, finding out he had malware and a virus on his computer, cleaning all of that up, resetting up his homepage and not getting back home until after 8PM.
He declined having me bring him a small TV, set up a game page or Netflix on his laptop. I did show him how to find solitaire on the computer, and he does have several books and Amazon's Alexa for music, or news or radio, so he should be set until Saturday.
Plus side to all of this? I was able to visit with him for a few hours, get in well over my step goal for the day, and even tho I ate after 6PM, I was too tired to eat a full meal. Win, Win, Win.
They aren't with us forever and the stories we make with them while they are, will last for our life time and beyond in the retelling.
Before this, it seemed it was just that he was growing accustomed to having "the ladies" at his beck and call but realized last night, that it's more. I really need to be more patient now that I see how things are changing.
Ohhh.. AND if you shop for anyone else ever... you need to read labels more carefully. (Did you LOOK at the peanut butter you bought??!!) Peanut butter does not mean peanut butter spread. Even when the ingredients are: "Peanut butter and honey".