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Thursday, July 12, 2018

When I first started losing weight a year and a day ago, I was very quiet about it. Personally, I feel weight loss is a personal thing, and I didn't need the judgement of others. People really tend to size you up quickly, and some enjoy pushing buttons to see what your reaction is.

So, I kept it to myself. My husband knew. My mother. That was about the extent of it. Have you ever noticed that if you are overweight, and on a diet, people love to judge what you eat? I can't stand that. You're supposed to eat how you want to look. So if I go to a restaurant and order a salad, that's my business. What I eat shouldn't affect how others feel, but the bottom line is when you're fat and you're on a diet and you're eating with others who aren't, they automatically feel badly. In return, they then want to make you feel badly. Which is why I kept it to myself.

Well, after losing 82 pounds, I really can't hide it any longer. So when I get into an eating situation, especially with someone who isn't "watching it" I feel self-conscious now. I try not to let it bother me, sometimes the person doesn't say anything. But then sometimes, the questions start...

Oh, so you don't eat burgers anymore? (If say, I've ordered a salad).
My response... "I can eat whatever I like, however today, I've decided to order a salad."

So, how does your diet work then, if you can eat whatever you like?
My response... "Everything in moderation. If I eat a burger on Sunday, I will not be eating another for at least a week."

Well, then, what do you eat on a regular basis?
My response... "I eat sensibly, trying to eliminate sugar and carbs with every chance I get."

*Laughing* Well that's not fun. How much are you losing?
My response... "I've lost 82 pounds in a year."

*Eyes bug out of head* Wow, that's amazing. Do you exercise?
My response... "Yes. I walk 20,000 steps daily."

I barely walk 5,000. How do you do that?
My response... "I make myself do it everyday."

So what are you losing, like 3 pounds a week?
My response... "No, more like 1. Sometimes a little more than 1."

*Eye roll* You do all that just to lose a pound a week???
My response... "Yes. Because all those pounds add up."

*Shakes head* I could never do that.

These conversations that occur with various people now (because they have to... my weight loss is no longer a secret) drive me nuts. Anyone could do this. Yes, it is a lot of work. Yes, it takes a lot of time. But you have to put the work in. There's no magic pill. There's no big secret. This takes a lot of hard work, commitment, dedication, and self-love.

But it's for you. So why wouldn't you?

You cannot force someone else to take this journey with you. But do NOT give up because someone else chooses to try to make you feel badly about your journey. This will happen to you. You have to stay strong and ignore it. You have to let these people know that this is important to you, and you are going to do it no matter what their opinion is.

Thanks for reading.
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    Thank you for this blog! Very thought provoking and eye opening for me. You are doing amazing and are really inspiring! Meep up the great work:)
    251 days ago
  • KIMJ01
    I'm sorry this happens to you. I have learned over the years to not make comments on anything someone is eating (or not eating). And just so you know, while my mother does say something about my weight loss (complimentary things) she's the only one who has ever noticed. Not a single person has said a thing about it. I think it is pretty obvious that there is a change, but maybe not! LOL! I have decided not to worry about it. Good for you for standing your ground. And you never know, some of what you say may eventually make an impact on those other people.
    251 days ago
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    252 days ago
    Thank you for this post. It was very encouraging. "But it's for you. So why wouldn't you," is my new motto. Thank you very much!
    253 days ago
    You are SO right (but then you knew that), and one pretty much has to have that conversation with everyone you eat with regularly. And then they start watching and you have a different conversation with them but still defending yourself and trying to make them understand this is about YOU, not them and their choices.
    Success to you.
    254 days ago
    Yes, they "can't do that" and that is why you have lost 82 pounds and they

    have lost?????????????? nothing!!!! You have to love yourself enough

    to try for those 1 to 1.5 pound losses....they add up. You proved that.

    254 days ago
    What a wonderful blog! Thank you, thank you!
    254 days ago
    Honestly I get this!
    Especially the hamburger one, then what do you eat on a regular basis? Me: "Not hamburgers". then what? "what my body needs at the time" I refuse to keep up the conversation.
    Why do people think my weight and what I do about it is any of their concern? Only my husband has that right and that's because he has to live with me. Thus it affects him, others, Not at all!
    254 days ago

    editing-don't have a clue what happened to my post, sorry
    254 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/12/2018 4:53:29 PM
    The more I learn about nutrition, the more I worry for folks that 'can't' or 'won't' even try.
    When people learn I am sugar and flour free, I hear stupid things like "I would die if I had to give up ____ "(fill in the blank.)
    My position is I would rather not die if I can avoid it (or at least delay it) with nutrition.
    254 days ago
    AWESOME blog!!! Definitely know what you mean!

    P.S. I clicked "I Liked This Blog!" because I did.
    254 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/12/2018 3:27:40 PM
    I love the strength you show in so many ways. emoticon
    254 days ago
    Thank you, people need to realize that there is no magic button or pill and then they have to "own" their body and their health. Too many are unwilling to commit to that ownership.
    254 days ago
    I enjoyed reading your blog immensely! I appreciate the statement "This takes a lot of hard work, commitment, dedication, and self-love." Despite the naysayers, the put-downers, and others, you are an example, motivator, and champion to many people, more than you'll ever know. You're definitely a champion in my book!
    254 days ago
    My favourite is "HOW ARE YOU DOING IT?" and I'm like "watching what I eat and exercise" It's as if people expect I'm going to have some magical way.

    You are doing so well!
    254 days ago
    Keep doing what you're doing. It works. emoticon
    254 days ago
  • THOMS1
    Everything in moderation and more! With fitness and walking 250 steps every hour and I have to push myself to remember to do that 250 steps every hour but, after a while it becomes your way of life. It's just something you do to keep losing and or maintaining. emoticon Have a great day!!
    254 days ago
    It is amazing how little most people know about health and self-maintenance
    254 days ago
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