When I first started losing weight a year and a day ago, I was very quiet about it. Personally, I feel weight loss is a personal thing, and I didn't need the judgement of others. People really tend to size you up quickly, and some enjoy pushing buttons to see what your reaction is.
So, I kept it to myself. My husband knew. My mother. That was about the extent of it. Have you ever noticed that if you are overweight, and on a diet, people love to judge what you eat? I can't stand that. You're supposed to eat how you want to look. So if I go to a restaurant and order a salad, that's my business. What I eat shouldn't affect how others feel, but the bottom line is when you're fat and you're on a diet and you're eating with others who aren't, they automatically feel badly. In return, they then want to make you feel badly. Which is why I kept it to myself.
Well, after losing 82 pounds, I really can't hide it any longer. So when I get into an eating situation, especially with someone who isn't "watching it" I feel self-conscious now. I try not to let it bother me, sometimes the person doesn't say anything. But then sometimes, the questions start...
Oh, so you don't eat burgers anymore? (If say, I've ordered a salad).
My response... "I can eat whatever I like, however today, I've decided to order a salad."
So, how does your diet work then, if you can eat whatever you like?
My response... "Everything in moderation. If I eat a burger on Sunday, I will not be eating another for at least a week."
Well, then, what do you eat on a regular basis?
My response... "I eat sensibly, trying to eliminate sugar and carbs with every chance I get."
*Laughing* Well that's not fun. How much are you losing?
My response... "I've lost 82 pounds in a year."
*Eyes bug out of head* Wow, that's amazing. Do you exercise?
My response... "Yes. I walk 20,000 steps daily."
I barely walk 5,000. How do you do that?
My response... "I make myself do it everyday."
So what are you losing, like 3 pounds a week?
My response... "No, more like 1. Sometimes a little more than 1."
*Eye roll* You do all that just to lose a pound a week???
My response... "Yes. Because all those pounds add up."
*Shakes head* I could never do that.
These conversations that occur with various people now (because they have to... my weight loss is no longer a secret) drive me nuts. Anyone could do this. Yes, it is a lot of work. Yes, it takes a lot of time. But you have to put the work in. There's no magic pill. There's no big secret. This takes a lot of hard work, commitment, dedication, and self-love.
But it's for you. So why wouldn't you?
You cannot force someone else to take this journey with you. But do NOT give up because someone else chooses to try to make you feel badly about your journey. This will happen to you. You have to stay strong and ignore it. You have to let these people know that this is important to you, and you are going to do it no matter what their opinion is.
Thanks for reading.