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July Unexpected Happenings

Wednesday, July 11, 2018

This has been a bit of a stressful week for me and my family. emoticon My MIL that is in a nursing home close to us since January fell and broke her hip. So needless to say I had to step up with my DH and be by her side during surgery, in hospital and now back at the nursing home. My DH and I are dealing with everything but she is not the most cooperative person. emoticon We understand she is in pain but the fall was totally her fault for not asking for help and wanting to prove she can do it on her own (cause she says she doesn't know why she is in a nursing home). Well after various falls and warnings we told her you will eventually break something it happened! emoticon
She had a rod and three screws placed and now is the long road of therapy which she is fighting us. I get all the insults and screams but when my SIL came to visit for a few hours she was all smiles!!! emoticon .
So since last week I have been at hospital or nursing home and my exercise and participation in the challenge has not been to the max. I am trying to weening her from our visits because I need time to get my son that is leaving for California on the 20th ready and this is going to be hard enough. I also go back to work at the end of the month and she needs to understand that we need to work!! emoticon
My DH is not taking any of her manipulations either and feels sorry that I have had to do this but on the other hand I really don't mind doing this what I don't care for is my SILs lack of compassion toward their mom and how she makes excuses for them but if my DH is working she is questioning!!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon I told her today he does not own his company and he needs to travel so I am here!!
Well I just needed to vent a bit because sometimes I get a bit overwhelmed but the next day I go back for more!!! emoticon emoticon
Just wanted to let my spark team know cause I have been a bit out of circulation and I will be for a while longer since I need to get my youngest son ready to leave!! emoticon

emoticon This will be bittersweet cause he is going to continue his education and hopefully someone will hire him so he can have experience. There don't seem to be QA for video gamers here in Florida or jobs want experience but if you don't work you wont get experience!!! Please keep him in your prayers that he might find a job soon!!

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    Have been where you are. I don't know how old your MIL is but when my DM broke her hip it was the beginning of the end. It was almost impossible for her strength to stay up while trying to do the rehab exercises. From 12/10/17 until 3/08/18 she tried but gave up the battle when she could no longer take the pain and infection that set in. Hang in there and do what you can each day. emoticon
    286 days ago
  • JUSTME29
    It sounds like it's been a challenging summer for you. I know you want to do all you can for you MIL, but you need to take care of yourself too and make sure to have time to spend with your son. I know you will make it all work - just be sure to remember yourself in all of this.
    287 days ago
    Why does life have to be so hard all the time....ugh. You have so much on your plate and you can only spread yourself so thin. It's ok to care for others, but make yourself a priority first and foremost. Given the opportunity, people are stronger than they realize. One thing for sure, your team is very supportive and only wants the best for you.
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    288 days ago
    You may vent all you need. How old is your son? I know you want to do all for him but he needs to spread his wings and figure this out for himself. Same goes with the MIL; sounds like she needs the next level of supervised care. You can't help if you're worn out yourself. Be firm with what you can handle. (I'm sorry but let's leave god out of this. Crap happens. Period.) Listen to your inner sense of what's right for you, your husband, and your son.

    There are caretaker agencies out there and some can be paid by medicare/medicaid. My dad had alzheimers and the advocate was a blessing in finding the right kind of help. Find a counselor for yourself if you feel the need for practicable guidance in sorting out what's really yours to deal with and what's not.

    Hang in there and stay strong.

    288 days ago
  • GEORGE815
    Hope everything works out for you. God doesn't give you more than you can handle. You can do it.
    288 days ago
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