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All or nothing, Friend or Foe?

Tuesday, July 03, 2018

OK first of all...I rarely blog. So for me post something, it shows it is something that has been on my mind.

At one time, I had lost 100 lbs and have gained about 20 back. I have still maintained the 80 pound weight loss for about 10 years but have been struggling with the +/- 20 pounds. And how to beat it.

Lately I have been feeling discouraged my inability (or lack of motivation) to maintain all aspects of a healthy lifestyle. I need to accept the situation and learn what I can do next time (which may be in 5 minutes from now) when I fall off the wagon.

How do I lessen the blow of my deviations to my plan.

I saw this in a magazine and it really got me thinking about our chooses we make.

Adversity – Friend or Foe?

I will start with a story.

A daughter is complaining to her mother about how miserable her
life is, nothing ever went her way and she was tired of struggling
and fighting.

Her mother responded by pulling 3 pots out and placing them on
the stove. She placed carrots in the first one, eggs in the second
and tea bags in the third.

After time, which the daughter impatiently waited through, the
mother inspected the ingredients in each pot.

~The carrots had turned mushy and fell apart.
~The eggs became hard.
~The tea bags had diffused throughout the water, turning it into a refreshing

When adversity shows up, and it does like hot water, how do you
want to respond? Do you want to fall apart like the carrots? Turn
hard like the egg? Or allow the adversity to positively impact
those around you?

I do consider myself an expert at adversity and believe that at times I have been the carrot, the egg and too few times the teabag..

I have told some of you before...I am an "all or nothing person" When I am focused, I do great at losing weight( I am the egg)...when I am off...I have no control (I become the carrot). I need to learn how to "become the tea"

I try Remembering that 80% of 100 is better than 100% of zero. Even if my efforts are not carried out exactly as planned, I need to continue to strive towards my goals. (that is easier typed than done) Yep I know that some obstacles are beyond my control (like the 100 degree weather that is keeping me form walking and turning me into a couch potato). But why can't I find the happy in-between place?

This is my struggle...and I have yet to find the answer.

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    Loved this blog, and it does pertain to all of us. Keeping off 80 lbs to me is a great victory....we all need to have those special times when we veer off the path, but the thing is, have a little extra, then right back on track again. Weather too hot, walk in a Mall, or go swimming.

    Elaine emoticon
    1035 days ago
  • 4CYNDI
    Great blog!
    And timely for me. I just got back from vacation where I didn't do all I *think* I should have to maintain my healthy lifestyle. I did eat better than previous vacations, but still ate more deserts (and GF bread) than normal.

    Let me/us know how you are doing with your new attitude and what adjustments you are making. I need the hints too.
    Hope you are having fun this summer.
    1115 days ago
    Must be something in the water, as I just posted a rare blog, too! I can relate to a lot of this, too. I just wish I had managed to maintain as well as you have! It sounds like your body has found a "happy place" and it can be hard to move out of that spot. Slow and steady progress to a new small goal may be a good option. I'll be here to cheer you on!
    1120 days ago
    Love the story Sandy. You have done an emoticon job to keep the 80 pounds off. How about splitting that 20 you want into 5 pound chunks. Go for 85 pounds lost and aim to keep that off. Then 90 and so on. emoticon
    The really hot weather can sap your energy. I have been known to go and walk in the local mall if it is too hot. Leave the credit cards at home!! emoticon
    emoticon You will get there. emoticon

    1121 days ago
  • no profile photo EVIE4NOW
    You have done great. Remember how you got here and keep pushing!
    1121 days ago
  • no profile photo HOTPINKCAMARO49
    Awesome! Way to go!
    1121 days ago
    Great blog. Right now I am the Tea bag but in another plateau. While my motivation is steady, I need to change my plan. I need to increase my calorie intake to meet my exercise plan and yet I hesitate. Your blog just pushed me to make the change
    1121 days ago
    Great job keeping the 80 off. I too often do the all or nothing and I get frustrated. It seems to be that I can eat all the candy and do none of the exercise but I am working on it!

    Have a great day!
    1121 days ago
    I think by recognizing the problem, the struggle for yourself, is getting you partly out of it!! Perfectionism, all or nothing thinking, can cause us alot of stress. Stress is not good for our overall health or weight loss! The story is great to keep in mind! As for not walking in 100 degree weather, of course not, but why not do a walking video inside? Find some other indoor workout to do!! don't just sit on the couch and overthink! All this is advice. advice I can give because I fought the all or nothing monster myself! Now, I do what I can when I can! Instead of a 100% egg or a 0% carrot I aim to be about an 80-20% tea bag or sometimes even a 70-30% tea!! It took practice to let it go! But, I assure you I feel so much better about myself and allow myself to slip occasionally. I'm losing more weight than ever too!! Hang in there!! wishing you the best!
    1121 days ago
  • SPICY23
    I think we all struggle with this, at least some of the time.
    Don't give up.

    Peace and Care
    1121 days ago
    Awesome job those 80 pounds! Celebrate all the vicories, non scaLe related too!
    1121 days ago
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