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The Blame Game

Saturday, June 30, 2018

It really bugs me when people blame others for what they have become. They make excuses and justify stupid reasons on why they are lacking advancement in life. People spend more time thinking and making up excuses rather than changing their lives for the better…

People spend too much time finding other people to blame, too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past, and getting on with their lives.-J. Michael Straczynski

We should all take our own life seriously…by this I mean take 100% ownership of your thoughts, emotions, actions —your state of mind.

Each and every one of us is responsible for creating our own world, our own environments and surroundings.

Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anybody else expects of you, never excuse yourself.-Henry Ward Beecher

Be your own master. Don’t let yourself get dragged behind someone else’s path. Stop blaming others for your dispositions and change the way you perceive the world so you can be in control of your own life and make your own decisions.

Nothing is impossible; there are ways that lead to everything, and if we had sufficient will we should always have sufficient means. It is often merely for an excuse that we say things are impossible. -Francois de la Rochefoucauld

With all that being said; I'm as guilty as the next person and need to work on myself and where I need to be. Emotions such as the ones I've had since mom, my sister Connie and my brother-in-law Bobby all dying in the past 2 years has taken its toll on me. When I think back on where I could have been vs where I am now; had all of this grief not hit me like a brick wall I would actually be to my goal weight. But, I'm still here. I'm still trying. I will continue to try as long as I have a breath to take and a heart that still beats.

emoticon Love & Hugs to all. Stay cool today we have a 115 heat index here in OH today. ~ Donna

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    Sorry for your losses that is hard
    288 days ago
  • no profile photo CHAYOR73
    Such a power blog, I love it!!!! emoticon
    291 days ago
  • BLUEJAY1969
    I'm glad you wrote this. You state things very eloquently. Have thought for the longest that if people would stop blaming others (parents, etc) for their issues that they would be better off. Claiming responsibility for ourselves and our actions is essential for the growth of our spirits. From experience though, I know that depression is one of those things that you can't always control. You may be able to cut it short but in all the years I've been dealing with it, I've not found a way to prevent it. You've done very well in my opinion given the hits that you've received over such a short period of time. I personally deal with grief very well but haven't learned to deal with stress even after years of living with it. I allowed stress to destroy my health. It's taken a toll on my relationships with my family and I'm not sure how long it will take me to fully recover both. One thing I do know is that the next time stress comes knocking, I'll be going to see a counselor so I can learn to manage it. I think you've done a good job of coming out the other side of things all things considered.

    292 days ago
    Never give up! There is really no other choice but to go forward and we choose how we will do that - you are right, taking 100% of the responsibility for ourselves is the answer and we will do that.

    Grief lasts a long time and even when it ceases to be constant it comes in waves. Your losses were huge but you and you alone can mitigate them by going forward as your loved ones would have you do...healthy and strong.
    293 days ago
    emoticon Thanks for sharing!
    293 days ago
    One day at a time, Donna.....we keep moving forward. Never giving up is the key. I admire your strength & courage to keep pushing forward! You've got this!!!

    293 days ago
    Life has been hard with double losses. It is good that you have not given up.
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  • 52BINCE
    Today is where we live and yesterday is over so we march forward to success remembering the good in the past and letting go of the bad . great blog!
    293 days ago
    So sorry for your loss. Hugs and good thoughts for your inner strength to keep you strong.
    293 days ago
    You and your family have been through hellish emotional traumas the last couple of years. But as I know you are well aware, many of us have unfortunately gone through our own personal heartbreaks. We have to dig deep inside of ourselves to find the strength to overcome the agonizing pain. Although I don't believe that "time heals all," I do believe that "time" used for our personal goals whether physical or mental can eventually lead to happiness within ourselves. Everyone deserves to find that peace and contentment.
    293 days ago
    We all need to take responsibility for our own actions. While we learn we can't control others or how they act. So many are screaming to make others act the way they want and then the downward spiral begins. We have to just be, do, say and act responsibly for ourselves and if it doesn't suit their narrative then that is their problem not mine.

    Thanks for the reminder, keep the faith and stay strong...

    Carpe Diem

    293 days ago
    Each and every one of us is responsible for creating our own world, our own environments and surroundings.

    I SO agree with this writing! THX for the invite to read, REALLY great! Love the photos!!!!
    293 days ago
    Thanks for great blog. Understand your grief, since lost granddaughter in tragedic accident less than two months. Time helps healing process. I know that I need to move on in goals and positive thinking. May God bless you!
    293 days ago
    How interesting the blame game started in the Garden of Eden and continues through today. We must take responsibility for our own actions!
    293 days ago
  • ROX525
    So sorry for your loss.

    Some people cannot see past today and suffer depression..i.e. Robin Williams, Kate Spade, etc. My youngest son (age 32) goes through boughts of depression.

    My cousin lost her son at 6 and husband (she lives at at 3 Mile Island in PA where they had that nuclear reactor accident in 1979), she lost her sister and brother within a month apart in 2015 and her last brother a year later in 2016. We just got back from her mother's funeral (bless her heart as she lived to be 88). Yet Marcia is faring all of this well. A lot of people would fall apart.

    I pray people have the strength to deal with their own emotions and seek outside help if they do not.

    Thank you for sharing. Again, so sorry for your loss.

    294 days ago
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    294 days ago
    I couldn't agree more with you, if you blame others, you never grow, never feel you are an adult and are never happy.
    294 days ago
    You are here and that is what counts. emoticon
    294 days ago
  • no profile photo INCH_BY_INCH
    emoticon I see you have met some of my family members. I find it too draining to blame others. I try to do the best I can for me. emoticon emoticon
    294 days ago
    So sorry for your losses. emoticon
    294 days ago
    It is certainly understandable given the deck of cards you had to deal with. The good news is tomorrow is a new day and new month and we are six months away from Jan 1. Best for all of us is to put the brakes on yesterday and go to town today! … emoticon
    294 days ago
    You have had a rough time! You know the old saying...one day at a time. Ever try journaling? Magazines like the Daily Word help me too! emoticon
    294 days ago
    Thanks for sharing
    294 days ago
    Sweetie, I understand about the grief taking it’s toll. Same here. Yours has such a deeper, darker layer, though, with your sister and BIL. Hard to deal! Add to that all the stress you sent thru w/the job changes. It's just a lot to process.

    And – most importantly – ((((HUGS)))) If it helps any, just know you're not alone. Dad passed away on 12 August, my dog on 21 August, my brother's MIL on 24 August, my DIL had a miscarriage on 31 October and Mom died on 02 Nov. All in 2017. My BIL just passed away on 13 June (almost 3 weeks ago now). Ready for some peace, and I KNOW you are, too.

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    294 days ago
    I am sorry to hear of your losses. That would be enough to throw anyone off their goal.
    294 days ago
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