Sunday, June 17, 2018
We went to Hubbs's dads on Friday and returned today. we had a good visit with him. he is trying to move on since Hubby:s mom passed in February/ I think he still wants Hubby>s approval to do things. he told him to do what makes him feel better/ He looked at me today and remarked I never knew you could laugh and joke. Well, his mother held everyone down. Not allowed to be self as she did not approve. I turned to him and remarked, I did not know you could spend money. He just lost it. her main thing was you only got your needs and nothing else was allowed in her house. at 81 we went with him to get his first computer, set it up and show him how to use it/ he got his first smart phone and his buddies showing him how to use it. He got a 55 inch flat screen so he can enjoy his sports and westerns/ it is a shame he could not have anything he wanted for the 52 years they were married. only needs no wants. so sad money in the bank does not make up for living. he feels he has to get Hubby.s okay to spend his money as she wanted to save only for her son/ Hubby told him, spend all you want, you earned, it, saved it and now enjoy it. so sad to me. Hubby and I enjoy the rewards of our work and saving.