The Bunch Brunch
Thursday, June 14, 2018
Another get together of the Birthday Brunch Bunch today.
We were somewhat belatedly celebrating Dorothy's birthday. Somewhat belatedly? Her birthday is actually at the end of March! Never mind, we have caught up now. Just in time as Sally's birthday is fast approaching.
At times it was a difficult gathering. Some months ago, I called out one of them for racism [privately obviously]. I know she values our friendship greatly and has been somewhat tentative because she thought maybe she'd pushed me too far. The conversation among the group today at one point turned to having to do something as a 'leaving do' for when I go. Said friend commented to me that she'd intended suggesting she and I do something but maybe a 'group' thing was better - it was me that introduced her to and included her in, The Bunch. I replied that yes, of course I would love to do a group thing, but also, she and I must do our own private thing too. The change in her body language and general demeanor was astonishing.
So that was good. Tensions were running high elsewhere though. One of the group is very upset with another member. Frankly both have spoken to me and I understand both points of view to an extent. Neither are right. Or wrong. They just aren't communicating. Building up resentments which is awful given how long they've been friends and the experiences they've shared. One let rip at the other who was almost reduced to tears. The rest of us stepped in to calm things down and get the focus back onto [belated] birthday celebrations.
Then to top it all, one of the bunch who is a local Councillor announced she wouldn't be standing for election again because she has been diagnosed with dementia. Tbh I wasn't surprised. I'd kind of guessed. Having seen it up close and personal with my mother and my step dad, I see it. I hurt for her though. Dementia is so cruel. She's a bit older than me but not a generation older. Makes you realise that all these things that happened to parents/aunts/uncles etc are now happening to us.
So, a mixed bag of a gathering. I came home, had a coffee, then went hell for leather with more de cluttering and cleaning. Now, do it now, while I can. I'm beginning to feel a bit like that about the move too. Yes of course it will be scary. Yes of course I'll miss my children on a day to day basis. Yes of course I'll miss The Bunch and all my other friends as well. It isn't easy being forced into this situation. I guess I can moan and wail about it. Or I can embrace it. I've always wanted to live by the coast so now is the time to turn the situation around and realise that dream. Carpe diem.