When lies serve a purpose
Saturday, June 02, 2018
My last blog I wrote was about the negative side of being “nice”... one of the comments on that blog (and a book I was reading) got me thinking about the difference between speaking the truth with love and respect and speaking the truth with no tact or respect... being “brutally honest “. There is a very real difference between undiplomatically honest and sharing your truth with love and respect. It also brought up this idea that’s been in my head about the cultural necessity of lies. Not big, damaging lies... but little, white lies, that we use everyday to skirt the truth or hide behind. The problem with that is then they become part of being “nice” and can become a sign of distrust and a lack of faith. But a few white lies aren’t the end of the world if they diplomatically extract you from a situation or conversation. There’s no hard and fast absolute here. I don’t particularly like absolutes... they trip a person up, because there is almost always an exception to the rule! We learn to lie at very young age, in fact it’s a generally recognized stage of development in children... we just learn to be sneaky and manipulative with it as we get older. But there are times when a lie serves the purpose better than the truth.