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Thursday, May 31, 2018

I know how to do this. I know what i need to do, what works best for me. I just don't seem to know how to keep going. I started out at 363lbs and lost 83lbs. I could feel the difference but couldn't see it. Then the stress of family just got so much. It was such hard work. I got so much flack for spending time at the gym. I was criticesed for spending time tracking exercise and nutrition. Journaling and reading articles to keep me informed and inspired was similarly deemed a waste of my time. With several critical disasters in my life it became too much. I slowly gained a little weight during recovery after my full knee replacement. With the stress over my father's illness and mother's passive aggression and demands for time and then the results of my oldest daughter's poor choices I've gained 50 pounds since Christmas in about four months. How do you sustain self care when everyone around you is demanding your time attention and energy first? I'm sure this won't be the last time in my life I'm expected to put my life on hold and place other people before my own needs. I need to figure it out.
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  • 1965KAREN
    Put you first. Your going to the gym, tracking your food, fitness and so forth is your time! Everyone should have "YOU" time. I haven't lost weight like you have. But I know how I would feel if I lost it and then gained it back.. You can't be happy. You deserve to be happy. Just my two cents...Keep sparking!
    1115 days ago
    My tips for you are the same things I need to do for myself (sometimes easier said than done). You need to set yourself up for success. Try to make healthy choices a routine in your life. For example, I eat the same breakfast practically every day. That way each morning, I don't have to think about it or make decisions....I know what I'm going to have, and always have those ingredients on hand (I freeze some in advance in case I haven't been to the store in awhile). For me, that's a cup of tea or coffee, a piece of toast (a healthy bread that's lower carb/GI index, like Ezekiel bread or Dave's Killer Bread), with ham, lettuce, and cheese. I use the cheese as the top of a sandwich, so it's just one piece of bread. I eat that every day, because it has protein, a veggie, and is low carb, and doesn't require any cooking...just making a piece of toast. (Some would argue ham and cheese isn't healthy...but it works for me, and my cholesterol levels are fine.) I have these foods entered into the SparkPeople nutrition tracker as a group, so with one button I've entered in the whole meal.

    Anyway, figure out a breakfast that works for you and is healthy, and one that you like and won't get bored with, and stick to it. Then, start thinking about lunches and dinners the same way, but with a bit more variety. Have some go to meals that you enjoy that are healthy, and enter them into the nutrition tracker as a group. It makes tracking easier, and also takes away the anxiety of decision making. When there is turmoil in your life, just making decisions about food can be stressful, and can lead to "bad" choices, so this makes making a healthy choice an easy option. Planning ahead really helps, so maybe have an outline of your meals for the next few days. You can always change your mind (as often happens to me), but knowing I have certain ingredients on hand and a general plan helps.

    Those who love you should encourage you and your decisions to get healthy. If you enjoy the gym, you should go. They could always go with you if they wanted! But don't feel guilty if you want to go. Remind them that exercise will help your health, so you will have the energy and stamina to do more things with them and be in a better mood, etc. You deserve it!
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    1116 days ago
    An object at rest tends to stay at rest...!

    Getting started is the hardest part. I would suggest focusing on food choices. They say that 80% of weight loss is food choice, 20% is exercise. I would peg it more like 90/10, at least for myself.

    Get the food under control: gotta eat anyway, so make it work FOR you instead of AGAINST you!

    Once the pounds start shedding, getting your body MOVING again won't be as challenging.

    You can DO THIS! :-)

    1116 days ago
    I have found out that the reason people criticize you eating healthy and exercising is because it forces them to change too! You keep doing what you know to do. Eventually they will get on board when they see that they don't bother you. Also, you won't see your weight loss per say. You're still you. I felt like the same person at 160 as I did at 366 because at the end of the day, I was still me.
    1116 days ago
  • EISSA7
    For the sake of your own mental and physical health, choose YOU first!! Do whatever it is that you know is effective for you! Tomorrow begins a new month, make it the beginning of recommitting to self. emoticon
    1116 days ago
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    1116 days ago
    You do not put your life on hold. If you don't take care of you,you cannot take care of others.Ignore others criticism.Live your life for you.Hard,as a woman because we are people pleasers.Its ok to be selfish.Allow others to take care of themselves.
    1116 days ago
    I am doing something very similar at this moment.

    Let's let each other know when we find the answer.

    1116 days ago
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