Beck Day 4 Give yourself credit part 1
Thursday, April 12, 2018
Beck Day 4 Give yourself credit
This is a hard one for me. This is going to take more than one day. I am hard on myself. Any slip triggers self criticisms like weak, hopeless and failure.
Beck suggest I create a Good Behavior Jar any put money into it to be used for future rewards. My problem; I’m not materialistic. I grew up very poor and learn early on to be content with whatever I had. I don’t crave or collect things. My family know how hard it is to buy me a gift. I used to love books but now I read virtually.
I am a very positive person toward others but I treat myself rather harshly. Beck says it’s important to learn to give myself credit for everything I do right. There is the sticking point. I know the journey takes lots of HARD work like planning, tracking, resisting temptation, countering sabotaging thoughts, consistency and getting in those fitness minutes. I’ve never seen the work as something I should be rewarded for. Emotionally, the work is like brushing your teeth or putting your clothes away. These are things we do because we are supposed to do them.
Telling myself Good Job for reading my ARCs or eating sitting down seems like an undeserved pat on the back.
Beck says that by continuously giving myself these pats on the back, I’ll reinforce my self-confidence and build an awareness that I am strong and in control.
Unplanned eating gives rise to negative thoughts like feeling helpless, hopeless and overwhelmed.
She says that when I give myself credit every time I do something right, I can more easily see slips as momentary mistakes.
So the HOW to recover from a slip is by giving myself credit for every thing I do right. I’m just not sure how to do that just yet. More tomorrow.