Putting the “Me” in “Febmeary”
Sunday, February 11, 2018
I know what you’re thinking: “Uh, … what? I’m pretty sure ‘Febmeary’ is not in the dictionary and is not a real word.”
Dictionary, schmictionary. If 2018 is to be different, I say we bust the mold.
February is home on the calendar to Fall off the Wagon Day (February 4 this year), Reading Week (allegedly instituted to prevent suicides on campus), and of course Valentine’s Day (all about chocolates and cupid now, but rooted in sacrifice and executions).
Poor February. What a bum rap, never mind the short, frigid days. No wonder we lop off a couple so we can head on in to March as soon as possible.
Consider, then, the possibilities of Febmeary. Febmeary reminds us that this ol’ body and mind we conceive of as being “me” deserves to be at the tippity top of the priority list. Febmeary, I do declare, is about self-love, self-exploration -- and maybe even a little self-actualization.
I recently started reading The Compound Effect, by Darren Hardy. Hardy writes,
When most people set out to achieve new goals, they ask, “Okay, I have my goal; now what do I need to do to get it?” It’s not a bad question, but it’s not the first question that needs to be addressed either. The question we should be asking ourselves is: “Who do I need to become?”
Read that last sentence again: “The question we should be asking ourselves is: ‘Who do I need to become?’” The more I think about this statement, the more profound it becomes.
On a weight loss journey, we concentrate mostly on what to put in our mouths and what not to put in our mouths. What healthy habits can we develop? What unhealthy ones can we ditch? We DO these things to reach our goal.
Hardy is saying (and I agree) that if we want to HAVE more, we must BE more. It’s the difference between “I’m quitting smoking” and “I’m a nonsmoker.” Or between, say, “I’m losing weight” and “I’m a healthy person.”
The healthy person isn’t interested in snarfing down a bag of Oreos any more than the nonsmoker is interesting in heading out for a few quick puffs. The healthy person and the nonsmoker ARE a certain way, and BEING that way governs the choices they make. They thought about who they needed to become, and they each became that person.
I propose we spend the rest of the month of Febmeary thinking about who we want to become and how we can BE that person. I propose we open up a space for a whole lotta self-love and some contemplation about changing who we ARE so that changing what we DO becomes a no-brainer.