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Removing my Membership...

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Monday, January 15, 2018

Dear Sir/Madam-

It is with great relief that I would like to remove my membership from your club. I have been a member within your club for as long as I can remember. I was initiated into your club by my mother, who of course was initiated into your club by her mother. I need this membership to stop with me, however.

Membership in your club has caused me great distress and distain. It has contributed to unhealthy habits that have hurt me not only physically but also mentally. This engrained abuse cannot continue and I, thus, must remove myself as a member of your club.

Now, I realize that I've been a lifetime member of your club. In reality, however, my closure of membership into this club will not be that impactful due to the popularity of your club. I only wish that others would come to the reality of how painfully harmful membership in your club is.

Let's take the other day, for example. I was eating lunch at work and got full. I actually felt remorse over the fact that I was full and was going to have to throw away the food that was left on the plate. It was about 3/4 of my lunch, but I was full. The food sat on my desk for an hour before a coworker finally helped me throw it away. It's because of the membership in your club that I was having such an issue.

I am proud to say that I am okay with not being a member in the club. The other night when I indulged and went out to dinner with my boyfriend, I ordered a small portion of food (really a kid's play) and only ate a little bit of it. The next day for lunch, I again, was only able to consume a little bit before again being full. The picture below is what is left after 2 times of attempting to finish the 2 6 inch tortilla meat/cheese burritos and 5 bacon wrapped prawns.

If I was a member of your club still, these would have been gone the 1st setting AND I would have been OVERSTUFFED. It is because of membership cancellation that I have been working on listening to the signs my body is giving me to stop eating and that I'm full.

I know it will be difficult for me to continue not being a member of the club but I also know that my drive and determination to succeed will make me successful. After all, this is my quest to be healthy... this is my quest to be a better me... this is MY year!!!!
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    I love this post. I have often heard people say that if you don't eat everything on your plate, then you are wasting food. I feel that if you are full and eat food that you do not want, then that is a waste also. I struggle with this mostly when eating out because at home I can control the amount of food on my plate and I use a smaller plate. When eating out, they serve such large portions that it can be overwhelming. The way I solved this was to ask for a box when I order. When I get my meal, I put part of the food in the take out box before I ever start eating. That way it's not on my plate and I'm not tempted to overeat. A restaurant sized dinner usually makes me three meals.
    1 day ago
    Mom's Rule, Eat everything on the Plate.
    My goal I do the clean plate differently. I eat until full then ask for a container to take the food home. At home I put the food on the plate but use smaller portions; then if still hungry go for a smaller second portion.
    Anyway that is my goal. I am still struggling with the diet. A carb and sugar adiction; just what a diabetic needs to eat. No not really. I have an appointment with an endocronologist In August. My diabetic medicines have stopped working. My family Doctor did not know how to proceed; so the specialist. I was refered in February; so the soonest I could get an appointment was August. Just seems that 6 months without meds are extreme. Sorry for feeling sorry.
    I am stronger on the exercise portion. Any way, luck to all of you clean platers And all my Spark friends.
    13 days ago
  • AMBER461
    Excellent blog post, thanks for sharing.
    61 days ago
    This really caught my attention!! Thank you!
    84 days ago
    Interesting to read some of the others' take on this blog! Good grief! I too am a long-standing member of this club--or at least have been until about the past 10 years. It was Africa in our family. My husband fortunately did NOT belong to this club and over the years has convinced me that is ok not to clearn your plate every time--AND convinced me that since there are only 2 of us--there is no need to make dinner for 6 every night! The other problem with this club is that food is oft times used as a reward--as a way to say "I love you" when your favorites are prepared. How guilty does it make you feel when you doent clean that plate up! Thank heavens for Spark and learning new ways and making heathy changes. And thanks for writing this--enjoyed it very much!
    116 days ago
  • LINDA!
    Great post!!!
    152 days ago
    Love it!! When I was a kid my aunt pulled the clean plate club on my brother. Apparently he threw up after he was finished eating, and she never pulled it again on anyone.

    I remember an old routine with the "eat your food. There are children starving in Europe". I think it was Europe. But the response was something to the effect of "if I eat my food will they stop starving?" I actually still struggle with eating too much food just because it is there. But that is one of my New Year's goals, and I am making progress.
    155 days ago
    Oy! I'm at least a third generation, if not fourth generation!!

    My mom tells the story of when she was a little girl and had more left on her plate then she could finish, and she pushed it away. Her folks told her to eat it up, not to waste it, "think of those poor starving children in China who would love this food!" She said, "Well, you can just send my food to China, I'm not hungry." Turned out, that was not a popular thing to say and her parents made her regret that comment. Any wonder she struggles with her weight?? Or me...??
    156 days ago
    LOL Love this! I grew up with the notion of a "Clean plate club" at the family dinner table so it really resonates. emoticon
    158 days ago
  • no profile photo SWIMANDWALK
    So creatively said!
    158 days ago
    159 days ago
    Well written ! I remember those days growing up too (I believe, though, some folks missed the point you were making: #SHAWSKITO, #TEAPOTLOWRY....) #INSPIREDARTIST....)
    159 days ago
  • CAROLJ35
    You made a lot of us sit up and pay attention! I don't like to waste food, so will use a smaller plate or simply put less on my plate!
    160 days ago
  • HUTC0100
    emoticon Great post!! I have experienced similar situations, so I related to this!! emoticon
    160 days ago
  • no profile photo INCH_BY_INCH
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    160 days ago
    My mother was raised during a time when you ate the food given to you because food was expensive. Not that it isn't now. But times were tough. she raised her children the same way. I seem to be the only one of 6 kids that joined this club. She was also a member of the finish your kids plate of food as well. I am slowly learning that I do not have to: 1. serve myself enough to fill the plate and 2. eat everything that is served to me. I am an adult and I (should) know my limits. Thank you for sharing.
    160 days ago
  • QUAIL75
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    161 days ago
    emoticon I can still remember my Grandfather telling me as a child that I couldn't have any dessert ever, without cleaning my plate first. 2 wrong pieces of advice..................1. That I had to eat everything on my plate even if I was full and 2. Using one food as a reward for eating another.

    Good for you for dumping that club..............
    161 days ago
  • JERICHO1991
    Good for you! I need to cancel my membership too.
    161 days ago
    What about the starving children in Africa?

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    161 days ago
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    We all need to ditch this club! Way to rock it!

    161 days ago
  • JAMER123
    I belonged to that club a well. There are starving children all over the world so clean up your plate. I tend to do that now even though I know it's not the right thing for me. Thanks for a great reminder and the thought of not filling your lunch size plate with more than you can eat!!
    161 days ago
  • LSIG14
    LOL! That is the hardest thing I've ever done. For over 65 years I have thought about "those poor starving children in China who would be glad to get that food" and have decided that the next time I have food left after I am full that I will give it to a homeless person who really would be glad to get it. (Not that I would take it off my plate but save the leftovers instead of eating it because it is there!
    161 days ago
    In order for my mother to have me finish my meal she would say "Think of all the children in Europe who doesn't have any food, finish". And so not only myself but my sister finished what was on our plate. I am glad that I no longer belong to that club too.
    161 days ago
  • no profile photo SHAWSKITO

    Well, I can see that your BLOG is getting a lot of attention. I thought you were quitting Spark People
    and you didn't know how to do it, and were looking for HELP! I think you would just "Unsubscribe" . . .
    there is usually a notation at the end of each email, and all you have to do is "Click the Unsubscribe
    Button". Is that so hard ?

    I continued to read your blog and your problem seems to me to be to "Clean Your Plate", or NOT!
    Well, I thought when a person was trying to cut down or back on their intake of food, a person
    would go from a "Dinner Plate", to a "Salad Plate", then to a "Bread and Butter Plate".
    Possibly you didn't get this memo about doing this. How sorry I feel for you.

    Possibly what you could do, instead of using a "plate" is to just use your hand. That way you
    wouldn't even dirty a plate, thereby saving you some work of washing and drying extra dishes.

    Good luck with whatever it is that you decide. I am sure you have given a lot of people some
    "Food for Thought".

    It's been a "BLAST"!

    161 days ago
    No body makes people do things that are not healthy. Even though I belong to Sparks People I lose my weight be the healthy way of eating I don't like fade thinking. But I have always been my own leader. Good luck folks.

    161 days ago
    awesome bog well said in a very cute way emoticon emoticon
    161 days ago
  • no profile photo TEAPOTLOWRY
    I am going to turn in my membership as well. I have had diabetes since year 2000. I was diagnosed with gastroparesis in Aug 2017 then had a cardiac event and stent placement on Nov 28, 2017. I am disabled and use a walker. I have been receiving your emails for quite some time. I can't do the exercises and I can't eat the food you post on your recipes. Therefore I bid you goodbye.
    161 days ago
  • no profile photo NONNAOF2
    It most certainly isn't a club that I would continue with either! Great job in a new lifestyle!:-)
    161 days ago
    I have joined you in turning in my membership. I have down-sized my plate, measure my portions to appropriate sizes for my calorie range, order in restaurants knowing I will be taking more than half home or I just order appetizer/kid size, and have my responses ready for my "well-meaning" friends/family who think I still belong to the Clean Plate Club. Congratulations on your insistence that the membership committee accepts your resignation from their ranks. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    161 days ago
    161 days ago
    great post, but I admit at first I thought you were quitting the Sparpeople club. I almost quit reading! Congratulations! I too need to quit the clean plate club!
    161 days ago
    I was brought up belonging to this same club. I still try to adhere to this membership, but I preportion my plate so I can CLEAN IT and track honestly and health wise.
    161 days ago
    You have made a great decision and I congratulate you. emoticon emoticon
    161 days ago
  • FLAGG-
    I absolutely love this! It is something we all need to do - quit this club. Thank you for a wonderful blog. emoticon
    161 days ago
    Thanks for sharing
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    161 days ago
    Yes, I am trying to cancel my membership, also. Hard work to go against the grain of what we were taught all our lives, but definitely worth doing! Thanks for the powerful wake-up call!
    161 days ago
    Love it!
    161 days ago
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  • no profile photo STAYOFFPOUNDS
    fantastic!!! emoticon
    161 days ago
  • 52114ME
    Nicely said. It is difficult to change a lifetime of training.
    You have over come the "Clean Off Your Plate" rule. Good for you. emoticon
    161 days ago
    This was great!!!!! emoticon
    161 days ago
    We all seem to have this going in our lives, right? GREAT blog!
    161 days ago
  • STONE815
    emoticon I have cancelled mine too!
    161 days ago
    I love this blog. I need to follow your example and give up my membership too. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    161 days ago
    Awesome post! My husband and I have started splitting one meal. Thankfully we generally have the same tastes. When we both are craving something else and we order our own meals, we eat way to much and am miserable. I have such a hard time leaving food. I sometimes just have them bring me a to-go box before I start so I can split it and keep myself from eating it all at once.

    Anyway - great job and great post!
    161 days ago
    I'm working on cancelling my membership as well. Hard to do after 56 years but very necessary!

    Great blog post! Thanks for sharing.

    161 days ago
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