A stress-busting blog.
Saturday, October 14, 2017
So, my mom is having a thumb arthroplasty done next Thursday and I have become increasingly anxious about it. I'm obviously anxious about her making through surgery and about the surgery being successful. I admit that I'm also extremely anxious about how her surgery is going to impact my daily life. My mom is only in her 60s, so she doesn't require a ton of help, but she'll need help with housecleaning and driving to appointments for a while.
What's causing me anxiety about her need for help is that it's going to be close to impossible to maintain the usual order and control I like to have in my life. I'm extremely type-A and need to have my days well-planned. I've been killing the weight loss thing and I don't want to lose momentum. With that in mind, here is my plan:
1. I am going to stop worrying about the success of the surgery as much as possible. I cannot control it, therefore worrying about it is completely useless to me.
2. Like me, my mom has a home gym. While I hope to maintain my regular workout schedule (working out with my husband before work), I am going to pack a gym bag to keep in my car. This will ensure that I workout even if some of the visits to my mom's are impromptu. I can use her machines and I can also access my Beachbody workouts online.
3. My mom doesn't have a huge appetite on the best of days, so I imagine her fridge will be sparse. She is also a meat-eater while I'm a vegetarian. My plan is to bring salads when I know I'm going to be there around mealtime. When my husband and I go help her at home today, I'm going to bring several servings of the tortilla soup I have frozen in my garage. That way, even if I forget my salad or have to go over there on the spur of the moment, I have healthy food to eat.
4. I have to remind myself that this is temporary. Although I'm nervous about the success of the surgery, I'm sure everything will be fine and she'll regain a lot of her independence soon.
5. I'll keep a stash of nuts and fiber bars in my car so that I have access to them when I'm driving her to and from appointments.
6. Since the weather is cooling down a lot, I'll also keep bottled water in my car. I drink almost two gallons/day and I don't want all the running around to keep me from staying hydrated.
7. I will make time for my husband and friends! If I'm going to survive this, I have to relieve the pressure by having one weekend night/week to spend having date nights and get-togethers. That's a must. Those people keep me grounded and I won't be of any use to my mom if I'm miserable or cranky. My mom is my best friend but we also butt heads a lot, so I have to be mindful to practice self-care over the next couple of months.
Please feel free to make other suggestions!!! This surgery is, thankfully, a first for us, so I really don't know what to expect.