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Where does your happiness lay?

Tuesday, August 01, 2017



This morning I was reading "Common Myths About Happiness" here on SP.

www.sparkpeople.com/reso
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And I have to tell ya,, there was a paragraph that truly stood out to me:

"One of the main tenets of Buddhism states that simply wanting people, things or situations creates unhappiness. For example, if you didn’t want that new car then you’d be happy with the one you already own. It’s not your old car that is causing your unhappiness, but the desire for the car that you don’t have." By Leanne Beattie, Health & Fitness Writer.

How many of us fall into that category of wanting something bigger and better than we already have? Perhaps it's a desire. Perhaps it's wanting to fit in with the crowd or have what the Jone's family next door has. But the question remains will it make me (us) happy? I could understand perhaps if your car wasn't running good or your refrigerator was on the blink, but to just want something bigger and better never made sense to me.

I ran my first computer for over 10 years before it finally died. It didn't matter that it was slow as molasses to me. It still worked and I couldn't afford another one anyways.

When I was raising my girls I taught them the meaning of a dollar. I made them earn money. It wasn't just handed to them in an allowance that they never did anything for. Both my girls are very money savvy now and I'm thankful for that.

Up until a year or so ago I didn't even own a credit card because I didn't want to fall into the trap of purchasing things I didn't need on it. I keep it as a reserve in case something happens that I simply do not have the money for.

So where does your happiness lay?



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  • LUCYCAN7
    Happiness is a choice you can choose to be Happy emoticon or
    choose to be miserable emoticon Also it IS about counting your
    Blessings! emoticon Wealth and material things is not what
    makes us HAPPY!Thanks Donna emoticon
    353 days ago
  • RAZZOOZLE
    Living in the moment is what keeps me happy and life simple. Thank you for the reminder.
    354 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/1/2017 8:30:07 PM
  • 2BDYNAMIC
    Things do not make us happy .. and I love a bible verse that talks about being content .... and contentment is of great price. The 23rd psalm says, 'The Lord is my shepard ....I shall not want....... and so forth. He has provided my every need and I am grateful and content. The 'world' is geared into making us believe happiness lies in MORE ...... and keeping up with the Jones's ......... Quit caring way back about what the Jones' think ........ I am in it for my peace of mind and contentment.
    Thanks for pointing it out.
    354 days ago
  • BLUEJAY1969
    Very good blog Donna! When DH and I were very young and had very little, we were happy. Oh we still wanted things..... like money to put gas in car without rolling pennies and a lb of hamburger more than once a week. I remember a time when I would have given just about anything not to have to eat potatoes every day and night for weeks on end. But we were still very happy. Our desire for "stuff" started when we grew apart during a time when we were both working so very hard and I worked in group homes that required me to stay overnight at the homes. I worked all the overtime I could get because we wanted to pay off a loan that DH's mom made to us. I was gone 6 days and 5 nights a week for almost two years. It took us a long time to quit wanting "things." I'd say we gave that up about the time we gave our hearts to the Lord. I mean not right away of course but slowly, over time. Now I still have an issue with my bipolar. My "manias" show up in shopping sprees. I have learned not to open or use any of the items for at least 7 to 14 days. This gives me time to see if it's something I actually need or if I just purchased it to "fix" the mania. I don't go to stores to shop and every place I shop online I have a membership that allows me 30 days to return things free of charge. Strangely enough, a lot of my purchases are clothes. It's very odd since I am not happy with my body in the shape it's in but I do like to look "put together" when I go out. Not fancy by any stretch of the imagination, but put together. Other than that little quirk, I don't want anything. I use a Chrome Book which is very cheap and stores everything on the cloud. We do have a desktop but that is for DH to do all our financial items on and as a backup in case something goes wrong with the Chrome Book or the Tablets. I love our car. We got it in '13 and it was a '12 they were in a really big hurry to get rid of so we got the advantage. We will drive it until it dies and since DH is a mechanic, that should be a good long time! So where does my happiness lie now? In the hands of the Lord. In the eyes of my DH. In the smile of my DD and in the laughter of my grands! It lies in each day when I get up looking forward to a new day of blessings!
    354 days ago
  • CLEAN18
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    I've taken a minimalist approach to 'things' this year. Love the change in my perspective and less clutter.
    354 days ago
  • SMILINGEYES2
    Very insightful. Advertisers and marketers and even the persons responsible for store displays use this appeal to create disequilibrium so that we spend.
    355 days ago
  • 1CRAZYDOG
    Lots to think about. In my youth I always though THINGS would make me happy. In my "elder years" I've discovered contentment makes me happy!
    355 days ago
  • HARROWJET
    I'm saving my energy for important things too emoticon
    355 days ago
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