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I am not really a people person.

Monday, July 03, 2017

When I'm placed with a person or groups of people I don't know, I try to ask them questions, because we all have heard that people like to talk about themselves. The thing I've noticed though, is that nobody asks me anything. There's little or no reciprocal questioning coming my way. Nobody seems interested in getting to know me. Sure every now and then someone might ask me something, but not very often. And if I try to volunteer my thought or opinion without prompting, the reaction is as if I've been rudely butting in. People just go on talking about themselves, sometimes as if I'm not even there, if it's a group.

I'm not really hurt by this. Just puzzled and a little frustrated. Does everyone just need a refresher in social skills and the art of conversation? I could easily skip all the pleasantries and be very happy, but at least I'm making an effort. I just wish others would do the same.

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  • no profile photo CD14273808
    Understood! I've been told a lot of times that I am a good listener, and I take that as a compliment; but sometimes feel frustrated coming away from a luncheon or other social setting feeling that I have been totally overlooked, or not included, or conversation has been all one-sided. I have accepted it (or blamed it) on being an introverted personality - which I am the first to admit about myself.
    1198 days ago
    I still like to put the pen to the paper and send a letter. I shut down my FB page in January and don't even miss it. Well people will probably have more neck problems, because of holding there heads down all the time with texting.
    1207 days ago
  • DEB62BIE62
    I feel you.
    1210 days ago
    for years in forced social obligations due to my husbands position in the military then the corporate word, I still have a hard time with that. some think I am stuck up.. others a nerd but then after time a common bond is formed and life goes on
    1210 days ago
    I can see the lapse of social skills with a younger age group, yes, but the recent situation that made me consider all this was with ladies my own age. Ah well, human nature is what it is.

    And yes, I always have knitting with me! Sometimes it becomes the topic of conversation, other times it almost provides a bit of invisibility. People seem to think I can't knit and participate at the same time.

    1210 days ago
    Owning my agree! Social skills have gone down the tubes with the advent of cell phones. Always have knitting so when the conversation lags you have something to do and someone is certain to ask you about what you are knitting. Asking questions is a great skill.
    1210 days ago
    Can do nothing but agree w/GGRSPARK -- the instant communication available has totally obliterated what social skills we grew up with. It's just a totally different situation. I have seen people walking side by side and texting each other. Really???? Or sitting at a nice dinner in a restaurant and busily testing and phoning. IMHO -- RUDE! Even more astonishing to me is now breaking up is sometimes done by text and terminating employment as well! OMG.

    So, keep on doing what you're doing. You're being a good example.

    1210 days ago
    By the way... the electronic age has destroyed good conversation confirms that. It's a lost art. Find some more interesting friends and please don't give up.
    1211 days ago
    I had to smile while reading this. I get the same feeling from time to time, even with family, but I've figured it out - because when I have an excellent evening, and the talk is interesting, it's because the people I'm with share something with me.
    1211 days ago
    Hello. Keep up being interested in people and asking questions. Ive read that that is what makes people intriguing and charasmatic. Yes, social skills are dying. Many skills are fading due to social media. Less personal. Keep giving your opinion.😄
    1211 days ago
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