Taking Care of Me
Friday, May 26, 2017
I did care taking for my DH for over 2 1/2 years. He had Alzheimer's, along with TB and MAC. He was a very sick man.
Many people told me I should put him in an Assisted Living Center, but both he and I vowed we would never put the other in one of those places. So Ted stayed home, and I learned how to take good care of him.
I attended the Powerful Tools for Caregiver's Workshop, and after that attended as regularly as I could. I am so grateful to have had that support! I seriously don't think I would have made it through without them.
While I went to the groups and workshop, I was still extremely challenged in taking care of myself. Everything I did was a focus on Ted. It was exhausting, challenging, funny some times, and always very sad. Ted passed away March 23, 2017.
For the first month, about all I could do was go in circles and clean, clean CLEAN the house and garage. I knew I was overdoing things, but I simply had to keep moving. I wasn't eating right, working myself into a state of sheer collapse, sleeping fitfully and couldn't keep my mind straight on anything.
Then Mother's Day approached. How I dreaded that! DD insisted I go out to visit her for Mother's Day and later in the month to attend youngest GD's college graduation. I did not want to go, but kept hearing the voices say "You MUST go".
I got back from that trip on Wednesday, and was glad to be home. Exhausted, but happy at the same time.
Just to get myself "HOME", I dusted the main floor and did some other housework. Then watched a Red Sox game. Went to bed around midnight, slept on and off, got up the next day knowing my new life had indeed begun.
Yesterday I spent decluttering DH's STASHES, and got a lot done. I even sorted out the music CD's, by category and in alphabetical order. Found a whole lot of them were duplicates, so I have them set aside for a garage sale. I got in some gardening, cleaning, stair climbing too.
Today I got up, made my breakfast (a rather NEW to me!), watched some of the TV news and then did my stretching. I followed this up with a list of things I want to accomplish today. My list is not long.....only has five items (or chores if you want), and when those five are finished, I may or may not make another list. That doesn't have to be decided upon right now.
So, Dear Friends, I am beginning my new life. Now I must close and get to the list.