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Mother's Day Thoughts

Saturday, May 13, 2017

I always approach Mother's Day with a mix of feelings. My mother is, as far as I know, still alive. She has chosen not to have me in her life for most of the time I have been alive. I wish things were different. I have been blessed with teachers, coworkers and other adults who have in some way filled the role for me. I have 2 stepmothers, one of whom is "Mom" to me, though that was certainly not the case when I was a teen. Then there was Mom Angell...

At work today, someone who does not know me wished me Happy Mother's Day. I accepted the wish graciously, but pieces of my heart shredded. I am too old to have children and, as I look at the downside of my lifespan, that regret stings more than it did a few years ago. Not only that, the void left by my absent mother has never completely been filled.

I have contemporaries with grandchildren and I have younger coworkers who are having children or trying do so. Their lives are very different from mine. I console myself with the thought that I have had enough trouble taking care of myself and it's probably better that I never became a mother.

Fortunately, I get to step into a pseudo mom role at work. I often mentor student employees and I teach new employees some of the company-specific things they need to know in order to be successful. I love doing both. I love being "the go to" person.

Tomorrow, I will call my #1 stepmother and she will talk too long (I hope she does not bring up politics!). I will work at job #1 and return home to continue the painful process of getting ready to move across the country.

Very likely, I will stay offline as much as I can. I can already tell that, this year, Mother's Day is going to be a day of thousands of cuts to my emotional well-being.

For those who are moms, about to be moms or virtual moms ~ I salute each and every one of you! I am not a parent, but I know I presented many challenges to my parents, teachers and others who filled those roles in my life. Sometimes, I wish I could undo some of my acts and unsay my words! I cannot thank those people this year, so let me "pay it forward" by thanking you and wishing each of you the very best possible day yet!
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  • _LINDA
    I was never a Mother either and never would have even considered it with my health but it also meant males were not the least bit interested in me. I so appreciate my Mother. She worked so very hard as a single parent to raise her three children, working three jobs so we were pretty much independent as children. I got my first house key at age seven. Today she is my best friend and supports me so much when it is I who should be helping her out. She is 80 soon to be 81 and works as hard as any laborer in spite of artificial hips and badly swollen hands. She has a vast garden area to work every year and a beloved dog she takes on long hikes twice daily. She is my inspiration to keep going no matter what. I have no excuse. The lady who took me under her wing at the bridge club when I first went there 23 years ago as a single player became my bridge Mom and helped me gain self confidence and become a better person. I was very socially backward and shy as a result of being bullied growing up and not having any friends in high school. So I am grateful for these two women in my left, they have done a lot for me. My bridge Mom sadly has given up and stays at home waiting to die (she has congestive heart failure :-()
    My thoughts are with you on this bitter sweet day.
    404 days ago
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  • DIVAGLOW
    I understand exactly where you're coming from. I have no kids either and jut simply smile when wished "Happy Mother's Day". Have a wonderful day! emoticon
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  • PROVERBS4SEVEN
    Thank you.
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