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Sad times and happy time

Monday, April 17, 2017

My parents married in 1946, had 5 children and divorced not long after my wedding. Dad married a widow who had her own 5 children. Dad was married for more than 60 years which was split about the same amount to each. My dad has suffered with Alzheimer's for several years but was finally set free from the frustration of all that. We had a very nice Because I moved away from Lincoln (Nebraska) when I married I missed most of the drama and never got to know the step siblings while my 3 brothers and one sister got to know them fairly well. We had a nice memorial service today but the slide show was hard to watch all the pictures of dad with all the other family. Only two of them have tried to be friendly -I think they are most like my stepmother who's very nice. We've spent time together shopping and getting pedicures. For the service one of my nephews and two of my nieces along with half a dozen of Mary's kids sang at the beginning of the service. Just to make life more confusing is my mom's name was Mary, my sister's name is Mary, and my stepmother's name is Mary. It was quite confusing at times.

This evening we took a drive to the cemetery which is out in the country (Raymond NE) and found our grandmother's plot. We will be digging the dirt off her plot and placing dad's ashes on top of her casket. His mom died when he was just two after having another baby late at night and both died when she bled to death and this is his way of being with her again. We had never heard of that being done but the cemetery director said it is done all the time, sometimes just to save money. Once we've done this it will be time to take our two small granddaughters back to their parents in Florida.

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    I am sorry too, but understand being both sad and looking at the happy times. hanks for sharing your story. I do like the idea of spreading your dad's ashes on top of his Mom's casket. I think it's beautiful. emoticon
    775 days ago
    Kerry I'm sorry about your dad. That is sad. I have never heard of scattering the ashes that way. I hope you are healing.

    798 days ago
    Oh my goodness Kerry, so sorry to hear this about your Dad. Sounds like he had a nice memorial service. Being so far away does make it hard to be with family and get to know them better. That has happened to us in the past too. That is an interesting idea about his ashes, very touching. Have a safe trip back and you are in my thoughts. Big emoticon
    820 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/18/2017 9:41:17 PM
    I am so sorry for your loss!
    821 days ago
    So sorry to hear of your loss but so glad you have happy memories of your dad.
    821 days ago
  • JOANN25
    Death is hard and even harder for you as you did not really know your dad's other family. I'm glad you got to be there for and with the family and hopefully you have bonded with this family.

    I am so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself.
    821 days ago
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