Recognize Thinking Mistakes - Beck Day 26
Sunday, March 26, 2017
This chapter, like the last, will require me to keep an ongoing written list for the next few days.
It covers nine thinking mistakes common to dieters. The exercise is to pair up the thinking mistake with the sabotaging thoughts I am recording.
I looked at the three thoughts I wrote about yesterday and paired them up.
Thought 1: If I don't get a latte I am going to die!
Thinking mistake: definitely a case of exaggerated thinking. While I might have really wanted one, death from caffeine withdrawal was highly unlikely 🙄
Thought 2: They are already making accommodations for me, I can't make it worse.
Thinking Mistake: I think this probably falls under justification. It might also fall under mind reading but then again I didn't need to mind read since she was pretty clear about her thoughts on a healthy choice...
Thought 3: they were made just for me so it would be rude not to eat them.
Thinking mistake: again I think this is a combination of mind-reading and justification. I am deciding that she will be annoyed if I continue to decline dinner and that eating them is justified because they were done especially for me.
I recognize what I'm doing but it is going to take some practice to stop making decisions based on these thinking mistakes.
Thinking on a solution the obvious thing to do would be to explain that I am trying to lose weight and I can't afford the calories. Both my sisters already know that I am trying to lose weight but I guess that I need to show them that I really mean it. Neither of them has a real weight problem. One I don't trust enough to leave myself vulnerable and the other one said that I wasn't going to lose weight anyway unless I was more active. No question increased activity will help but it didn't feel particularly supportive. On the other hand I'm just obstinate enough that my first thought is "oh ya?Just watch me!" Very mature response I know.
What it amounts to is that the only one who can make this happen is me and the reason I'm doing the Beck book is to learn how to adjust my thinking so that I do make it happen.