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Recognize Thinking Mistakes - Beck Day 26

Sunday, March 26, 2017

This chapter, like the last, will require me to keep an ongoing written list for the next few days. It covers nine thinking mistakes common to dieters. The exercise is to pair up the thinking mistake with the sabotaging thoughts I am recording. I looked at the three thoughts I wrote about yesterday and paired them up. Thought 1: If I don't get a latte I am going to die! Thinking mistake: definitely a case of exaggerated thinking. While I might have really wanted one, death from caffeine withdrawal was highly unlikely 🙄 Thought 2: They are already making accommodations for me, I can't make it worse. Thinking Mistake: I think this probably falls under justification. It might also fall under mind reading but then again I didn't need to mind read since she was pretty clear about her thoughts on a healthy choice... Thought 3: they were made just for me so it would be rude not to eat them. Thinking mistake: again I think this is a combination of mind-reading and justification. I am deciding that she will be annoyed if I continue to decline dinner and that eating them is justified because they were done especially for me. I recognize what I'm doing but it is going to take some practice to stop making decisions based on these thinking mistakes. Thinking on a solution the obvious thing to do would be to explain that I am trying to lose weight and I can't afford the calories. Both my sisters already know that I am trying to lose weight but I guess that I need to show them that I really mean it. Neither of them has a real weight problem. One I don't trust enough to leave myself vulnerable and the other one said that I wasn't going to lose weight anyway unless I was more active. No question increased activity will help but it didn't feel particularly supportive. On the other hand I'm just obstinate enough that my first thought is "oh ya?Just watch me!" Very mature response I know. What it amounts to is that the only one who can make this happen is me and the reason I'm doing the Beck book is to learn how to adjust my thinking so that I do make it happen.
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    We can not change others, only our own responses, you are doing great with focus. The mind needs discipline, and the more you're focused, the easier your responses will come in a controlled and graceful manner. Best wishes.
    1582 days ago
    "Thinking Mistake"... I liked your examples. I'm glad you're working through the Dr. Beck book. It sounds like it's helping you. Remember "why" you're doing it and don't allow others to get in your way!
    emoticon Dee
    1582 days ago
    Great analysis!
    About exercise, while I love it and I know it helps weight loss, success is 80% the eating and only 20% the exercise. So, if your time, energy and willpower is limited (and of course it is!) you may be better off if you focus it all on eating well. Once you are closer to your healthy weight, exercise will be more appealing and easier too.
    1582 days ago
    "oh yeah? Just watch me" is usually my 1st reaction too. That is a good way to think about those thinking errors. How do you turn down food someone has offered you without seeming rude?
    1582 days ago
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