Catching Up and Countering the Unfairness Syndrome -Beck Day 23
Saturday, March 25, 2017
The last two weeks have been quite hectic. My Mom and I had to travel eight hours to Vancouver to see a gynaecological oncologist because she had two large masses in her abdomen. Surgery was needed and was successful although at least one mass was malignant. We are still waiting to hear from the pathologist regarding stage. There did not appear to be any spread so that's a big positive. So my time the last two weeks has been spent driving to and from the hospital for appointments and then to spend the day with Mom as she recovered. Mom is safely home from the hospital tonight. She is doing really well for 5 days post surgery but is of course pretty sore. As great as the care was, and it really was excellent, it is always easier to recover once you leave the hospital with all its noise and routines. Kind of nice to eat at home too! Home for now is in Coquitlam staying with my younger sister Marj and her family. When Mom is well enough we will head back to Nelson.
Question: how many sisters does it take to load a suitcase into the car?
Answer: apparently one more than was at Vancouver General to bring the patient home! 🙄
I kid you not. I left Mom and my older sister Denise and the bag in the lobby while I retrieved the car from the parkade. Pulled up front and Denise wheeled Mom out to the car, got the two of them loaded in and away we went. Arrive at Marj's and Denise heads in with Mom and I park and go in the back for the suitcase and there it was gone. So in the car I get and 40 minutes later I collect the bag, which was miraculously right where we left it, and then back to Coquitlam. Let me tell you this small town girl has had more than enough of city driving!
So how to counter the unfairness syndrome. This chapter brings to mind my nearly five year old granddaughter. She is currently very focussed on the fairness of things in her life. "But Mama it's not fair that I can't do what I want! It is NOT filling my bucket!" The bucket reference is something the twins are learning at preschool. Positive things fill their bucket and negative things do not. I am quite pragmatic when it comes to fairness in life. Life's not fair. Get over it. I have made the choice to diet because I want something better for myself and I have the ARC to prove it. To think that it's not fair that I can't eat what someone else is having is ridiculous to me. Unfair is the plight of millions in Africa that are facing famine. They have no choice. I do and I am choosing to have dieting "fill my bucket".