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Sunday, March 12, 2017

So, I have fallen victim to the all or nothing mentality and it is a tough pattern to break for me! If I am not on the straight and narrow road, My mind tells me it is the only way for me to stay on track. If I falter, I beat myself up with destructive thoughts. It is a a bad pattern and I know that, I just can't seem to get past it. I know I need to try my best and forgive the rest and that is what I will be focusing on. Breaking the pattern of all or nothing is my new montra!
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  • no profile photo CD17749724
    I'm working on it too! emoticon emoticon
    1331 days ago
  • no profile photo CD17618158
    I love this blog. I too struggle with all or nothing. I'm learning to embrace "wabi sabi" instead.
    1348 days ago
  • HML5588
    I have the same struggles, and when I fall off I fall hard! Thank you for sharing. We can battle together.
    1357 days ago
    i struggled with this for a long time, and finally learnt balance. just take it one day at a time. you can do it. what finally set in was remembering what my doctor said about toddlers. so my advise it to think of it as if you are a toddler. dont flip out if you dont have a balanced meal- aim for a balanced day. did you get all your veggies in, good lean protein, at least two pieces of fruit will help with blood sugar, and good grains. the food tracker was so helpful for me with looking at my whole day, and the health report is very insightful. emoticon emoticon
    1357 days ago
    I know exactly what you me. I'm also trying my best, its just so hard sometimes.
    1359 days ago
  • no profile photo CD9556574
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    1359 days ago
    You can do it!
    1359 days ago
  • RHOOK20047
    I am like you, all or nothing. When I fall off track, it gets harder and harder to get back on.
    1359 days ago
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  • JUNETTA2002
    1359 days ago
    It's a process, and a learned skill, to start being a friend to yourself. If you wouldn't say it to your best friend, let's not say it to ourselves! Give yourself credit EVERY day for each good decision and choice you made. Because you're incredible and you're worth it! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1359 days ago
    Do you apply the same guidelines to other people? I seriously doubt that you would because you seem like a kind person. Would you talk to other people the way you talk to/berate yourself? Again, I think not because that's not who you are. Try writing yourself a note like you are responding to a friend who just shared his or her negative feelings about themselves. What would you say to them? Sometimes treating ourselves as if we are in 2nd person.
    1359 days ago
  • CATLADY1955
    Live only for today. Yesterday has past. Celebrate the little successes. Keep moving forward with small steps.

    Keep on trying.
    1359 days ago
  • no profile photo CD17342197
    I do that too, then I fall into "well, if I can't do it right, I just won't do it." NOT a good place to be.
    1359 days ago
    It's important to break that cycle, yes. But so difficult. I am on the same path as you and trying my best to really accept the setbacks, learn from them and then, resume my journey without the useless added guilt that mentality brings!
    Keep sparking!
    1359 days ago
    Totally agree! It's about living, and making the vast majority of our choices healthy ones. However, if one or two not-as-good choices slip in, the important thing is that we can always shift the balance!
    1359 days ago
    This is my issue and I have not tamed it but am working on it. Good luck to you.
    1359 days ago
    I sure can identify ... Patience.
    1359 days ago
    Thank you for sharing. I think a lot of us can identify with your dilemna. emoticon emoticon
    1359 days ago
  • MARGIEB221
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    1359 days ago
    Well said... I'm trying to escape from my "all or nothing" pattern too. emoticon
    1359 days ago
    You can do it! I used to be the same way. (like 12 months ago when I was quickly regaining in the course of 6 weeks what it had taken me a year to lose slowly ugh)

    I did an activity for a month, where I complimented myself on what I did do well that day. Yes, I acknowledged when I struggled with something, I didn't pretend it didn't happen, but, I did celebrate the things that I did well. Keeping an eye out every day for good things and progressive actions changed my defeatist, perfectionist attitude just enough to get over the hump.
    1360 days ago
    Try my best Forget the rest. Like that thanks
    1360 days ago
    Look for those little, yet really BIG, NSVs and chill...!
    1360 days ago
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