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Reality Can BE a Very Sad Event

Saturday, March 04, 2017

Today I took DH to the doctor again. It was a very sad time.

DH has lost 33 pounds since January when he had his last visit with this doctor.

DH doesn't want to eat, has no appetite, and is sleeping 17-18 hours a day.

The doctor and I agree that we need a few new tests done, which will happen on Monday.

The purpose of the tests is to determine if it is "time".

Both Ted and I have been strongly in favor of the Right to Die with Dignity for years.

Depending on the outcome of the tests, we will make our decision about "time".

While letting go will be empty and painful, it is horrible beyond description to see what is happening to him every day. Every day is a "new low" for my beloved husband.

The time for dreaming of recovery must come to an end.

I realize perhaps someone reading this will have a strong difference of opinion on this. If so, I understand. Just please, do not argue with me or tell me I am wrong in our beliefs.

We all will face this kind of reality, and we all must choose which is the right thing for ourselves.

It is my hope that my choices will be honored.

Reality can be a very sad event.

Thank you for all of your support. I need it.
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    There is a time to be born and a time to die....May he go forth in peace...
    763 days ago
  • PCOH051610
    I'm a very firm believer in the right to die with dignity "argument". I'm so sorry you and your husband are going through this horrible time. I'm sending caring thought across the miles to both of you.


    765 days ago
  • DEBBY4576
    Your type of reality right now isn't something anyone can know or judge unless they've lived it. I pray for some amount of Peace for you, as you go forward. God bless.
    780 days ago
    Hugs Sandy,,,,, yes reality certainly does bite. Not only do I HONOR the way you and Ted feel,,, I strongly,, strongly AGREE with this hon. Digitney means everything now and after.

    Please know hon so many of us think of what you are both going through BUT also importantly of the LOVE, RESPECT , FUN and ENJOYMENT your lives have been built around. Indeed you have both experienced what true love is. emoticon
    780 days ago
  • JAJABEE1717
    Please know that you have so much support from people you've never met but who keep you close in their hearts. It's a tough time and I ache for your suffering and your husband's. Stay strong.
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    781 days ago
    HUGS hugs and moe hugs. You are being brave. You are doing what you know to be best .
    782 days ago
    These past 2 weeks I thought the time had come for Ray too - so I totally understand.

    You really need to do what you need to do. We too believe strongly in the Right to Die with Dignity and I promised Ray, no Dialysis. No Heroic Measures.

    I gave him the choice for Chemo when he was 80. I gave him the choice for the new heart valve when he was 93.

    Like you, I love him too much to watch him suffer. I am sorry if Ted's time has come and will pray you find the strength to do what must be done.

    Please, know that you ARE loved.

    782 days ago
    Prayers for peace
    782 days ago
    Sandy, you have my support also. Sending hugs and love to you in this most difficult time.
    782 days ago

    782 days ago
    Sandy you will always have my support.I admire you.I believe you have looked after Ted to the very best of anyone's abilities and I think that in his heart Ted knows that.He may say things like his wife has died but that is his disease talking not the man who married you.Reality can be brutal.Anything I can do to help you I would do without a second thought.
    782 days ago
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