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Bribery is Not Dead

Wednesday, January 25, 2017

today I am taking DH with me while I get the car's oil changed and a general check up.

DH used to do it, but his Alzheimer's doesn't let him remember how to get the job done.

Nevertheless, he still balks at the thought of me taking the car to the pros to get it checked out.

SO! I am reduced to bribery.

I bribe him by asking if he wants to go to the Asian Buffet, which is one of his favorites. It is also right across the street from the car place. Handy!

So I will park in the garage's lot, letting DH think it is the best place to park, hand in my keys to the technician (they know about Ted) and then walk him across the street to the buffet. The technician always greets him by name ("Hi Ted! I'll just park this car for you so you don't have to walk as far to the restaurant"), and DH doesn't get all upset over leaving the car.

That garage is wonderful, and has the very BEST people working there! Even Bella, the receptionist, always manages to come out and say hello to him. Bella is stunningly beautiful, so Ted likes that a whole lot.

The downside is the buffet. I do not like Oriental buffets much at all. It is always such a struggle to find something that isn't fried in oil. Their salad bar is a meek one, too. But DH thinks the place is wonderful because he can get the sushi.

I don't do raw fish, so sushi is not for me. I begin with soup and try to get filled up with that.

Ah, the lengths I go through with my bribery game! But you know what? If it works, don't fix it!!
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    I didn't know but all these places will let you order and will fix you a plate to your specifications.

    I never used it myself, but a lady who joined us one Thanksgiving showed me and I am now a believer. They will cook it for you without sauces and however you want.

    Smart move - not really bribery - you do what has to be done.
    660 days ago
    You are truly a kind soul.Making it easier for Ted is a kindness that many people would not bother with you can call it bribery but I prefer to think of it as adapting to a need.
    664 days ago
    Don't know the words to say but sending prayers and ((HUGS))
    664 days ago
    You are handling your challenge so well.
    664 days ago
    For that bribe I'd go with you! Seriously, that is a great story and you are a kind soul. I've seen the devastation that Alzheimer's can bring. Your actions define the words "in sickness and in health".
    664 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/25/2017 3:12:16 PM
    Thinking of you. I so admire folk who can rise above adversity. You're a star
    664 days ago
    This story touched me so much. We used to do the same with my mother-in-law and my uncle. How wonderful that you have understanding friends in town that know you and your husband and can help you with your plan. You can't change your dear husband's progressive Alzheimers, but you can change how you create a world where you survive and thrive.
    Sending you empathetic hugs!
    664 days ago
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