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Gone a Long Time

Friday, December 30, 2016

My last blog was October 2015. Right after that, my life started unraveling as far as taking care of myself at all. My dad started falling getting in and out of the car at doctor appointments by the third week of September. By the first week of November, the director of their assisted living asked for an evaluation. The result of that was a week in the hospital, and from there on in, he was in a descent. He never returned home. I will spare you the details for now that will explain where on earth I've been. My dad died the following April.

My mom moved in with us the end of January so she wouldn't be alone and to save their funds, as Dad's needs were sucking their money. Mom was a cinch compared with him. She has Alzheimer's. She usually doesn't know what day it is. Sometimes she thinks it's evening or afternoon when she gets up. She forgets what she says so repeats herself after asking something two minutes later. I have help coming in twice a week to shower her and do some house work. I need their help, but find that I don't like having people coming in especially when I'm sick. I've been sick for 5 weeks now. I've been going to doctors, but not well yet. Nothing serious. I just got caught by caregiver stress.

On the plus side, looking around my Spark page, I see that I weighed more when I left than I do now! I'm continuing to eat vegetarian and even vegan when I can. My last physical was in October 2016, and my cholesterol profile was MUCH better than when I weighed 20 pounds less, which was about 10 years ago. My ratio dropped from 8.0 to 5.4! My doctor commented, "You've lost 9 pounds since last year."

To sum up, I started SP in Aug 2012. Two weeks later, I found out my mom has Alzheimer's. She's progressing slowly, in the meantime, my dad died of dementia (which I found out about the following year).

I had a meltdown this week. Told my daughter my mother is going back to assisted living. Her response was to clean my house on her day off. She will try to come once a week (she works 4 days a week). We agreed my daily walking is a priority. She insists that my mother stay out of assisted living. I didn't like their diet in assisted living; too much salt. Mom lost 6 pounds within about a month after she moved in with me. She has lost a total of 15 pounds since moving here, while eating more food than she was there. That makes me happy. If my daughter can only help me survive. Kind of envy big families right now. I'm the only child my parents have left.
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    So sorry for the loss of your Father. You have been through so much I know, not easy being a caregiver and watching our parents decline. On top of all that is going on you are sick, yes, I do believe it is because of all the stress, pray you are feeling better.
    Hope your daughter will help you out, you do need more help and you do need to take care of you.
    Sending lots of prayers and emoticon Hope for a better New year for you.
    Keep us posted.
    1069 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/31/2016 12:00:42 AM
  • PUNKYB830
    I am so sorry for your loss and all your going through.
    1069 days ago
  • PUNKYB830
    Cont : a weekly outing for yoyu time only.
    1069 days ago
  • PUNKYB830
    I imagine it is hard especially tgrough greif to be a caregiver. In many states you can get paid to take care of your parent and that will help relieve some financial. Also I recommend a caregiver support group to vent and for ideas as well as....
    1069 days ago
    God bless you! You have a lot on your plate. I wish you all the best for the coming new year!??
    1069 days ago
    Wow!!! A long journey. Please make sure you are caring for yourself.
    1069 days ago
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