Rewriting negative self-talk
Wednesday, December 28, 2016
I like to think I'm not a terribly negative person as a rule. I tend to find hidden silver linings, look on the sunnier side of life, annoy others with my endless optimism.
That is, where anything not concerning myself is concerned.
I'm very negative about myself, unfortunately. I lack confidence. I don't believe in myself. I tell myself I can't do things all the time.
Now, despite this, I've still managed to do some pretty cool things. My lack of confidence hasn't held me back as much as you might think. Still, I know it holds me back.
Over the years, and with numerous weight loss failures, I've started to tell myself I can't lose weight.
It's not overt. It's not like I am outright telling myself that I can't *ever* lose weight. I know I can lose 10 lbs, for example. I would even be willing to acknowledge that I can lose 20 lbs. But 50 lbs? Nope. That's where the negative self talk and low confidence sets in. 100? 200? Definitely not.
I also tell myself I can't do or change certain behaviors I need to lose weight. I can't count calories because I don't have time. I can't exercise because I hurt too much. They're not so much excuses as they are... shooting myself down, if that makes sense. I'm sure you know what I mean. I'm sure you do it, at least in some ways, too.
I want to make a list of all the things I'm telling myself that I can't do so that I can rewrite them into positive, confident statements of fact. This is my goal for this week. Then, I will put them in my home and my office -- maybe even my car too. I need to make sure I'm seeing them several times a day. Heck, if this works... I'll even do something similar with regard to my professional aspirations.
I will identify and attempt to rewrite the negative self-talk I use regarding my health and weight loss.
What are you telling yourself you can't do? Is it slowing you down?