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Rewriting negative self-talk

Wednesday, December 28, 2016

I like to think I'm not a terribly negative person as a rule. I tend to find hidden silver linings, look on the sunnier side of life, annoy others with my endless optimism.

That is, where anything not concerning myself is concerned.

I'm very negative about myself, unfortunately. I lack confidence. I don't believe in myself. I tell myself I can't do things all the time.

Now, despite this, I've still managed to do some pretty cool things. My lack of confidence hasn't held me back as much as you might think. Still, I know it holds me back.

Over the years, and with numerous weight loss failures, I've started to tell myself I can't lose weight.

It's not overt. It's not like I am outright telling myself that I can't *ever* lose weight. I know I can lose 10 lbs, for example. I would even be willing to acknowledge that I can lose 20 lbs. But 50 lbs? Nope. That's where the negative self talk and low confidence sets in. 100? 200? Definitely not.

I also tell myself I can't do or change certain behaviors I need to lose weight. I can't count calories because I don't have time. I can't exercise because I hurt too much. They're not so much excuses as they are... shooting myself down, if that makes sense. I'm sure you know what I mean. I'm sure you do it, at least in some ways, too.

I want to make a list of all the things I'm telling myself that I can't do so that I can rewrite them into positive, confident statements of fact. This is my goal for this week. Then, I will put them in my home and my office -- maybe even my car too. I need to make sure I'm seeing them several times a day. Heck, if this works... I'll even do something similar with regard to my professional aspirations.

I will identify and attempt to rewrite the negative self-talk I use regarding my health and weight loss.


What are you telling yourself you can't do? Is it slowing you down?
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  • CANDIGIRL4K
    Great way to turn lemons into lenonade. You are addressing the problem and that's amazing. Agree with Missdorkness...use the power of YET!
    1627 days ago
  • 1CRAZYDOG
    positivity will expand your energy.
    1627 days ago
  • MISSDORKNESS
    Oh my gosh, I identify with this post soooo much. Seriously, I thought I'd written it myself.

    I took two bits of advice from people here:
    1. if you wouldn't say it to your best friend, don't say it to yourself. You'd never discourage them, you'd point out their achievements and say you believed in them.
    2. The power of YET. Like, I can't even do a single pushup!!!! turns into, I can't do a full pushup YET. What are my next steps? Girly pushups? Nope, still too hard. Oooh, tabletop pushups, I can do that. And, after a couple weeks, I can do girly pushups. Still working toward full normal pushups, but, we've got to start somewhere.

    Some of my older posts, I'd just resignedly commented on obstacles, like, what are you gonna do, just need to accept it and live with it. Now? I'm like, let's id this obstacle and map our way around it! The tiny successes and the power of YET have changed the way I think, totally.
    1627 days ago
  • SANSANDY1
    This is something I still have to work on xx
    1627 days ago
  • ROSEPETAL205
    I love your honesty. My goal for 2017 is to be brutally honest with myself. To call BS BS. Not try to dress it up or make it pretty. I am preparing for gastric sleeve surgery but as I read and study, I have to stay on plan to lose weight
    1627 days ago
  • RASHELLESKY
    I hope you can find your way
    1627 days ago
  • LSHAMRICK
    You are what You think. Think bold positive and constructive thoughts.
    1627 days ago
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