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A 135-Pound Lifestyle

Thursday, November 10, 2016

I've been hovering between 135 and 138 for a really, really long time. Months, I dare say. Probably at least five months. I know what's happening--I'm eating too much--sneaking too many nibbles here and there and not tracking them, or adding an extra spoonful to something I've already weighed. And I'm not moving around enough, using my foot as an excuse and letting my husband make excuses to skip the gym, too. It's bad business.

I realized this morning (on the train--I'm on the train now, as evidenced by my previous blog) that my lifestyle, my DC lifestyle, is a 135-pound lifestyle. This is actually what I weighed in DC before I went to Indiana. So I eat, live, sleep and act like a 4'10", 135-pound woman when I'm in DC.

My Indiana lifestyle, like the rest of my Indiana experience, was much worse. It was a 160-pound lifestyle, which was really terrible. I have photographic evidence. It was breathtakingly bad. I just can't believe I looked like that.

This is what "they" mean when they say that weight loss is about a "lifestyle change."

All of this should be very obvious.

If I want to be a healthy weight (and I do), then I have to live a 110-pound life, or even a 95-pound life, which is still healthy and probably better for the joints that I've already abused so poorly with my lifestyles.

Clearly, the big issue is my food intake. "They" don't say that weight loss is 80% diet for no reason. I mean, maybe they kind of do. I have no idea where the number 80% came from, but it is a reasonable figure, and it gets the point across. I have to eat like a 100-pound BeatleTot.

How does one change one's lifestyle? That's another thing that has always kind of grated on me when people talk about lifestyle changes. It reminds me of "forgiveness." It's so nebulous. What does it even mean?

Well, according to

lifestyle - [lahyf-stahyl] noun 1. the habits, attitudes, tastes, moral standards, economic level, etc., that together constitute the mode of living of an individual or group.

That's actually way less nebulous than forgiveness! That I can work with!

Especially because it begins with "habits." I know habits are really important. My signature on the message boards has a quote from Nathaniel Emmons (I don't know who he is*, but I really like the quote): "Habit is either the best of servants or the worst of masters."

I need better habits. I already have an idea about my worst of masters habits. I've been going to bed late and eating too many sweets between meals, especially if my coworkers offer them (and they are a generous bunch). A 100-pound lifestyle includes only the very occasional beer and less calorie-dense foods than I am eating now. It also includes more movement. My foot doesn't hurt anywhere near as much as it used to, so while I would feel better waiting for a doctor to say I'm good for squats and lunges, I can certainly go back to my normal levels of cardio.

I am making a decision to get out of the 130s. I need to start living a 125 pound lifestyle, so I can make my way down to the 120s, and start a 110-pound lifestyle, so I can get to my weight goal. But it is all about the lifestyle and the lifestyle I want to lead.

As a gift to those who read this whole thing, I leave you with this really great blog post about the same. He's way better at motivating people than I am:


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*I just Googled him, so now I know who he is
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Member Comments About This Blog Post
    Thank you for this interesting blog, BEATLETOT, and for the link to Frank Beard's article, which I also found very helpful. You are both so right--we need to see ourselves differently in order to change--to see ourselves in the image to which we aspire. I loved his story about being 320 pounds and metamorphosing into a marathon runner, dressing in running gear and shoes, with a f-you attitude toward whoever might laugh at the sight!

    Your motivation and Beard's anecdotes have revved me up today! We can do this!
    854 days ago
    Aww. We have the same goal! Also, one of those cherries looks angry and the other looks oblivious. Ha ha! Ta for now.
    854 days ago
  • LINDA!
    Exercise is never my problem. However, food is my problem. I have lost 7 pounds since June. Now that may not sound like a lot to some. But to this 61 year old woman on meds it is a lot. My weight loss is very slow. The difference that I am now seeing is that I do not eat after dinner. I drink only water and try to move around. Morning is normally my exercise time. But I try to get up during the evening and occasionally dance or move during commercials. It seems to help.
    857 days ago
    It is true. We do live, eat, move differently in different places. When visiting my daughter and family, I am up earlier, move more, eat fewer sweets. At home, I can relax in bed longer, reluctantly get out and move. The question is how do you actively change your lifestyle? I know you can do it! emoticon
    858 days ago
    You can do this. I truly appreciated the link to Frank Beard's blogs- they were very empowering and motivating to read.
    858 days ago
    You got this!!!! emoticon
    859 days ago
  • L*I*T*A*
    i understand those long plateaus...........

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    859 days ago
    Thank you! I like the 'lifestyle' idea, that's (er) food for thought!

    You may start by living a 130 pound lifestyle... and then a 120 pound one... and then a 110 one...
    859 days ago
    Loved the blog and also the link. My goal is to get down to 135#'s I'm about 1/2 way there but it's taking a long time and yes, I believe it is so about my eating habits. When I'm feeling positive I cook and make healthy meals, but some days it's an effort to get anything on the table! Your message today has inspired me to do better - good luck to you and thanks!
    859 days ago
    Here's to those 120s! emoticon
    859 days ago
    Very interesting blog !!
    Thanks for sharing.
    859 days ago
  • CHERYLA2012
    Realization followed by acceptance and action. Kudos to you on finally figuring out what you need to do and deciding to go after it. Here's to Day 1 of your new plan towards becoming the healthiest you can be!

    859 days ago
  • SEAGLASS1215 easy to pick up bad ones, isn't it? I have a few that I recently started and definitely need to get rid of before they become too ingrained in my "lifestyle"....thanks for sharing, you've given me some things to think about!
    859 days ago
  • SUGAR0814
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    859 days ago
    Thanks for sharing the link. emoticon
    859 days ago
    Decision made ... going down and in a good way. emoticon

    859 days ago
    Don't give up, you can do it. You are almost at the finish line and this is not the time to waiver. Suck it up and do what you need to do to get the job done. 👍👍👍
    859 days ago
  • no profile photo HSBESA
    I understand how you feel! I've decided that I need to get very serious also. I'm losing but slowly. Time to speed things up a bit.
    859 days ago
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