I'm participating in a private Spark Team (BLC-32) weight loss challenge that runs for 15 weeks from September through December. Among the many team activities are four-day weekend challenges that include fitness, nutrition, and motivation tasks that you can complete to earn points. This weekend we were given a document with "18 Guideposts for Your Personal Journey" and asked to select four per day and journal a response to earn challenge points.
9. "Success" cannot be defined by others or even put into the hands of others for evaluation. If left unguarded, your success could be taken away at any moment. If you equate success with your intrinsic worth (even subconsciously), then you will be left broken apart. Own your success...don't hand it over to someone or something...be the captain of your own ship.
Letha: Women in particular get many messages from our culture to equate their physical appearance with their self-worth. I like the current trend to focus on health rather than appearance when considering nutrition and fitness plans.
10. Be more proactive and less reactive - to better align your reality with your vision. Reactive will only lead to loss of control. How can you be more proactive in your journey?
Letha: I like to think of it as creating the reality I want to live in. What am I doing today to create the tomorrow I envision?
11. Attempting to avoid negative events and situations proves an exercise in futility - negative things happen to everyone. However, adversity can often provide an opportunity to strengthen character, deepen emotional fortitude, and increase your overall sense of self and self-worth. These life lessons can only come when you decide to channel through difficult circumstances while relying on the gift of embracing self-empowerment. Prepare for events and situations that may be out of your control. Know what you can eat before you agree to dinner or lunch dates. Assert your independence by selecting the time and place of food outings.
Letha: Two important points here. 1st, preparation is essential for making healthy food choices. It takes a bit of effort but it's worth it. 2nd, you need to be assertive in taking care of your health. It's way easier to do these days than in years past. Everyone I know is now on some kind of food plan. Years ago people looked at you strangely if you asked questions about what would be served at an event or what ingredients were included in a dish.
12. Time and energy are not equal. Improve their interaction by learning their unique characteristics.
Letha: I currently have an abundance of free time - but I have some physical limitations which impact my energy levels. So I use my extra free time to carefully plan how I'm going to spend my energy. I find routines and habits save energy. For example, eating oatmeal with blueberries for breakfast every day. It's part of our morning routine and the kitchen is set up with everything we need to make and serve breakfast for two with very little fuss or effort.
13. Don't get stuck within the details. Whisper to yourself the words of Terri St. Cloud: She could never go back and make some of the details pretty. All she could do was move forward and make the whole beautiful. This goes hand-in-hand with #s 11 and 12. Use your time and energy wisely, minute-by-minute, move forward toward your goal by taking small steps. If you make a mistake, stop and regroup.
Letha: Some of the concepts and phraseology from this exercise don't resonate with me strongly. The advice here appears to be to focus on the big picture rather than the details. We all have a tendency to do one or the other, which is why partnership and groups are often more effective then individuals. I would say whatever your natural tendency - to focus on the big picture or the details - that it's helpful to strive for balance. Getting the details right can prevent mistakes and rework. Seeing the big picture can help us prioritize our time.
Hope you all are having a great weekend!