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Proud of myself

Tuesday, October 04, 2016

First of all, let me say I have been looking forward to seeing my former brother-in-law who I have seen twice in the last 25-30 years. And, today was the day he was passing through my neck of the woods.

Knowing that we have a difference . . . H U G E difference of opinion on most political issues, I was determined not to get into a debate with him about any of it.

And I held my ground and did not debate with him despite his repeated provocations.



At one point, during one of his long-winded explanations defending his position, I actually looked at him, wanting to say "do you know how ridiculous your argument/logic sounds? do you really believe that?"

But I didn't.

But that's not why I proud of myself . . . .

We had lunch at Sizzler, and my order came with a full blown meal, including dessert.

Used to be, I would have been shoving food in my face due to the stressful situation.

But today, I ate the protein (shrimp) and vegetable. And then I quit.

No seconds . . . . I didn't even have dessert.

I was really glad to see him, and for the time spent catching up . . . but really disappointed that he was so intent on setting me 'straight'. And he was not interested in listening. So I didn't even bother trying.

Really sad because I'll probably never see him again. And it didn't have to be this way.

But I'm really proud that I didn't punish myself with food.

This is a big win for me today.

PS Friendship, at least for me, is not based on a persons views (political, religious, etc.) . In fact, I have learned so much from people with very different views than mine . . . that's part of what makes true friendship wonderful.

Besides, the world would be a really boring place if everyone was just like me :)
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  • FUNLOVEN
    I don't know, Cathy. I think you are a pretty wonderful person and the world wouldn't be so bad off with more like you! emoticon on you meal achievement. It is great to be able to look back and see how far we have come.
    1109 days ago
  • BLUEJAY1969
    Wow I am so proud of you!! My DD or Son-in-law get going on wild conspiracy theories and it takes all of me not to wring their necks! They always tell me that it's on the web and they investigated it fully so they KNOW it's really true! Oh my word! You did really well not over-eating ---- well you did really well not wringing his neck so you did GREAT not over-eating!!
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    1109 days ago
  • WALLAHALLA
    Some people I'm quite happy to see once every 23-30 years.
    1109 days ago
  • 1CRAZYDOG
    You handled it wonderfully not feeding into the provocations for sure. NOT easy.

    AND kudos for not using food as a soother. That's great.

    PROGRESS.
    1109 days ago
  • BONNIEMARGAY
    Blessings on your gorgeous heart!
    1109 days ago
  • ERIN_POSCH
    Love the pic post... that seems so true.... lately i say it just to see if the challenge will be accepted cuz i can use a good laugh!

    as for you and your BIL, you did well. I know how tough it can be to get somone of the topic of their choosing and hate when they try to make something all about them and thier ideals.

    Proud of you for you choices. You did wonderfully expecially under the circumstances.
    1110 days ago
  • JACKIEWALKS4FUN
    You did great. Proud of you too. emoticon
    1110 days ago

    Comment edited on: 10/5/2016 11:31:34 AM
  • IMUSTLOSEIT1
    Some people you just have to agree with while you are thinking, where is he coming from. You did so great not blew your eating, and not blowing up the former BIL.
    1110 days ago
  • SSMITH017
    I like a good argument, but I hate when people make it unfriendly.

    I had a dinner exactly like that a couple of days ago, for a different reason, and with an 8 year old, of all things. I did OK, but it looks like you did better. I am proud of you, too!!

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    1110 days ago
  • NELLJONES
    I am avoiding political debates this year like the plague, personal and media. I'm too old to find it enjoyable anymore.
    1110 days ago
  • GARDENCHRIS
    glad you controlled yourself , sorry about your BIL he lost out not you
    1110 days ago
  • LOVENHWOODS
    A day full of mixed feelings...good for you for the love in your heart and making it work! You handled it so well...congrats on not giving in to stress eating!
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    1110 days ago
  • IAMSUNNYHOWARD
    HUGE NSV!! Anytime we can manage conflict without harming ourself is a win! Good for you.
    It was nice your brother visited, too bad he isn't much of a listener. We don't get to pick our family.

    Way to go!
    1110 days ago
  • KELLIEBEAN
    Wow, that is fantastic all the way around. It makes me sad to see so much negativity lately when people have a difference of opinion. We can learn from each other for sure. True friendship and true democracy thrive on embracing our differences.

    You are very inspiring!

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    1110 days ago
  • 2BDYNAMIC
    Sounds for starters you did a great job with
    #1. Let the ignorant remain ignorant unto themselves. emoticon (We can do nothing to change them)
    #2. Good job of not gobbling in an attempt to thwart stress ........... emoticon .... You deserve this! ...

    I heard the first message from a sage preacher years ago and have not forgotten.
    1110 days ago
  • _CYNDY55_
    Well Done!
    1110 days ago
  • IMPROVINGME
    Yes, you should be proud of yourself! Good for you!
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  • DEEEBEE
    I hear you. I'm having that problem with my sister. She doesn't quit and I am really tired of it.
    1110 days ago
  • PACEKA1
    Good for you. This politically-charged world as set families against families. I have my opinion, others have theirs. Who cares! If we loose sight of the relationship between us and focus only on our differences, how will that solve anything? You listened without arguing, and then you went to dinner and ate only what was good for you. What a win that is! You have every right to be proud!!!
    1110 days ago
  • BHARRISONO
    Way to go on what you ate and on not getting sucked into a heated discussion.
    1110 days ago
  • MFGUTZ
    Good for you!
    1110 days ago
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