First of all, let me say I have been looking forward to seeing my former brother-in-law who I have seen twice in the last 25-30 years. And, today was the day he was passing through my neck of the woods.
Knowing that we have a difference . . . H U G E difference of opinion on most political issues, I was determined not to get into a debate with him about any of it.
And I held my ground and did not debate with him despite his repeated provocations.
At one point, during one of his long-winded explanations defending his position, I actually looked at him, wanting to say "do you know how ridiculous your argument/logic sounds? do you really believe that?"
But I didn't.
But that's not why I proud of myself . . . .
We had lunch at Sizzler, and my order came with a full blown meal, including dessert.
Used to be, I would have been shoving food in my face due to the stressful situation.
But today, I ate the protein (shrimp) and vegetable. And then I quit.
No seconds . . . . I didn't even have dessert.
I was really glad to see him, and for the time spent catching up . . . but really disappointed that he was so intent on setting me 'straight'. And he was not interested in listening. So I didn't even bother trying.
Really sad because I'll probably never see him again. And it didn't have to be this way.
But I'm really proud that I didn't punish myself with food.
This is a big win for me today.
PS Friendship, at least for me, is not based on a persons views (political, religious, etc.) . In fact, I have learned so much from people with very different views than mine . . . that's part of what makes true friendship wonderful.
Besides, the world would be a really boring place if everyone was just like me :)