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Conflict Resolutions Concepts Applied to Relationships with Food

Wednesday, September 28, 2016

I'm reading a book for professional development at work entitled Negotiating the Nonnegotiable. As I'm reading through the book, I find myself thinking of other applications. While the book specifically addresses relationships with other people, I can see parallels to my relationship with food. In Chapter 5, the author Daniel Shapiro explains Repetition Compulsion as "a dysfunctional pattern that you feel driven to repeat."

As soon as I read this I thought about my relationship, not with people, but with food. Similar to the example Shapiro gave in the chapter, I have often felt abandoned when my husband traveled for work. When I feel abandoned, chocolate has a greater pull on me. When I'm angry or tired, I turn to carbs.

Shapiro gives suggestions for breaking a cycle of conflict. I think his ideas could help in the food relationship also. I've identified the triggers, I understand the cycle of discord, and I know the effect this tendency to comfort myself with food has on my spirit as well as my body.

I can make an effort to catch the compulsion as soon as I notice it and resist the pull to repeat the same patterns. I can acknowledge the compulsion without giving in to it. I can create a new routine that enables me to process my stress (disappointment, anger, or frustration) without giving in to the compulsion to eat.
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  • L*I*T*A*
    great way to apply and understand yourself better and how one relates to food!!
    many times the aha moments comes from places we least expect

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