This article blog was written by: Shola
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I think that it's time that you stop talking.
I'm not trying to be rude, but seriously - stop talking.
Before you think this another one of my infamous April Fools pranks, I promise that I'm being dead serious. This topic is too important to mess around with.
Speaking of important, we all have a dream right?
Maybe it's about finding a better job.
Maybe it's about finding true love.
Maybe it's about losing all of that extra weight and finally getting in shape.
Maybe it's about leaving a toxic relationship.
Maybe it's about going back to school.
Maybe it's about writing that book, starting that blog or releasing that album.
Maybe it's about getting professional help to deal with an addiction, health problem or personal issue that has been plaguing us.
Maybe it's about getting out of debt and building a savings account.
Maybe it's about confronting that big fear that's been holding us back from living our best lives.
Maybe it's simply about being happy and finding the inner peace that's eluding us.
Truthfully, the issue isn't about the dream.
The real issue is that most people make a huge mistake after they decide on their dream (or any life change, to be honest.)
They start talking.
Usually, way too much.
My hope is that you won't be one of those people. Your dream deserves the gift of your silence.
Talk is Still Cheap
There's a reason why the saying "talk is cheap" has withstood the test of time.
That's because "talking" is a half-step ahead of doing nothing.
Sure, it's not nothing, but it is pretty close (if you don't believe me, just ask my former coworker)
Keeping it as real as possible, being a big-talker requires no skill, no talent and virtually no effort. It's incredibly easy to talk about doing something, but it's an entirely different thing to actually go out and get it done.
And without question, one of the biggest barriers to doing big things in our lives is talking about doing big things in our lives.
Here's a perfect example of this:
I used to be neighbors with a woman who used to be fairly overweight.
For years, she spent a lot of time talking about how "this was going to be the year" where she gets into shape, or how "this diet/workout plan/magic blender-juicer thingy" was going to be the thing that finally gets her into shape.
And for years, nothing happened.
After not seeing this woman for close to two years, I bumped into her at the grocery store a few weeks ago with her new boyfriend and she looked amazing. For real, she looked absolutely incredible.
So, of course I had to ask her how she did it. Here's what she said (I'm paraphrasing, of course):
I realized that for years, all I was doing was talking about getting in shape. As soon as I decided to shut up and quit acting like talking was the same thing as doing something, everything changed. For the first time in my life, I decided not to tell a soul that I was going to get myself back in shape. I just kept my mouth shut and did it. Once I quit talking, people stopped asking me, 'So, when are you going to get started?', and now they're all asking me, 'So, how did you do it?' Believe me, that never gets old."
As I walked out of the store that day, I couldn't help but to reflect back on her amazing transformation and how everything changed for her once she simply decided to stop talking about it and decided to "be about it" instead.
And then I realized that any worthwhile accomplishment in my life also came when I shut my mouth, stopped telling everyone about the "big thing" that I was going to do, and just did the damn thing instead.
This is the epic gift of silence.
Talking is not action.
In fact, if anything it gets in the way of action.
So folks, what do you think? Is Shola right about keeping your mouth shut and just doing it instead of always talking about it? I'm a procrastinator when it comes to exercise anymore. It is not what I want to to, but I know if I don't do it I won't continue with my healthy lifestyle change. We all need a sense of accomplishment but, we aren't going to have that finished product unless we do it and not just say it. So...here's to a brand new week. May we all be doers and not just sayers.
Just for kicks ~