This article / blog was written by Shola
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One day I was teaching a customer service class, and I remember a woman complaining non-stop about how miserable she was in her job.
She went on and on about how she hated all of her coworkers, she hated her boss, she hated serving customers, and most of all, she felt like her job was taking years off of her life due to "being around stupid people all day."
When she was done with her rant, I asked her a very obvious question that she probably should have asked herself years ago:
"If you're so miserable here, shouldn't you consider finding another job that will make you happy?"
She was completely shocked by my question, before she finally responded.
"Well, I have bills to pay and I need this job. But that's not even the issue. I just don't understand why this company has so many idiots working here. They should be the ones who have to quit, not me... "Blah, blah, blah."
On and on she went. It was truly sad to listen to her.
She believed that the responsibility for fixing her unhappiness in her job belonged to her company, to her coworkers, and to her boss.
The fact is, no one is going to save her from a job that she hates-least of all, the "idiots" who she hates working with.
But I know who can.
Superman is Busy
"The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. The gift of life is yours. It's an amazing journey, and you alone are responsible for the quality of it." - Dan Zadra
There is not one post on The Positivity Solution that will be of any use to anyone if we're not willing to do one very important thing:
Take full responsibility for the quality (or lack of it) of our lives.
If you've been here for a while, you know that I've written about every topic from refusing to be anyone's doormat to changing the world just by saying two words.
But what good is any blog post, advice, or encouragement if we foolishly believe that someone else has the power to save us, besides ourselves?
Let's be real.
Superman isn't coming, because Superman isn't real.
And even if he was real, he would probably be too busy to save us anyway.
The good news is that we don't need him.
The responsibility for saving us and leading us to our best lives, is our responsibility and our responsibility alone.
Simply put, we need to be the heroes in our lives.
And truthfully, doesn't that make sense?
The person with the most power over our lives will always be the person looking back at us in the bathroom mirror every morning.
We're the ones who are making the decisions in our lives.
We're the ones in charge of our thoughts, words, and actions.
Most of all, we're the ones with the most invested in our overall happiness and well-being.
Contrary to popular belief, it will never be our bosses, our significant others, our parents, or anyone else who hold any power over us.
Unless we choose to give them that power, of course.
Make no mistake though, our power belongs to us.
And since we're on the topic of mistakes, the biggest one that we'll ever make in our entire lives is choosing to give that power to someone else.
My own thoughts about Shola's statements: I've said it before and I'll say it again. Our lives are full of choices. The choices we make many times decides our destiny. A person who loses a ton of weight has made choices to eat healthier, exercise and has decided that is what they want in their life. They have made it an achievable to goal. So what if it takes you 5 or 10 years to get there. YOU GOT THERE!!! And if you are just beginning your journey perseverance is the key. I believe that Shola once again is on target. We have to be our own hero. We have to be the ones that decide what is best in our lives and like they lady who was blaming everyone else for her job being so bad or working with people she didn't like, it was ultimately her choice to stay in a job that didn't make her happy.
Just like in this the work scenario, if you haven't found what works for you best in your healthy life style change, keep working at it. You will eventually find what works best for you.
Just for kicks ~