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Goodness from Negative Situations

Tuesday, August 09, 2016

This article was written by Mary Rau-Foster
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It is easy to become negative when surrounded by the challenges in our personal or professional lives. Negativity can become habit forming. If un-noticed and un-addressed, negativity can lead to an unsatisfying life.

Deliberately looking for the good in situations can neutralize negativity and its effects.

Looking for, acknowledging, and focusing on the good in life requires making day-by-day and moment-by-moment decisions. Personally, I find that there are times when it is easier said than done.

However, when I make and commit to a decision to look for and focus on the good in all situations, especially those that are challenging or difficult, I find that life is a little easier.

Here are a few examples; some are from personal experience and some have been shared by others.

emoticon Isn't it good that I was stuck in a traffic jam, and not involved in the accident that caused the traffic jam?
emoticonIsn't it good that having a minor illness lead me to the realization that I need to take care of my body and as a result I began an exercise and nutrition program to improve my health?
emoticonIsn't it good that I lost my job, because I now have a better job in which I am happier and feel more fulfilled?
emoticonIsn't it good that I had an upsetting conflict with a co-worker that gave me the opportunity to take active steps to resolve the problem leading to the conflict, thereby improving my relationship with this person?
emoticonIsn't it good that I have had the challenges in my life because they have made me strive to become a person who can rise above and overcome those challenges?

When we switch from a negative state of mind to a more positive one, we may find that the problems are not as big, the risks are not as great, or life is not as difficult as we had perceived.

We also become more aware of the gifts that challenging situations bring to us because we are looking for them and can see them. It is like the difference between night and day. Darkness is a given, but seeing things in the light is a choice.

Affirmation for the Week:

I look for the good in all situations. In situations that are more challenging, I double my efforts and I am rewarded with wisdom, optimism, and hope.

Have an insightful week!
So folks what are your thoughts? Do you find the more you are negative the darker your world becomes? I think I have mentioned this before, but some may not have read it, I greet everyone with a smile and "Have a great day." When my ex-husband and I played out in our Klassic Kountry band we used the Ohio turnpike a lot. I'd always greet the turnpike employee with that greeting. One day my husband's curiosity got the best of him and he finally asked me why I did that. I simply told him, "I'm sure they have had a rough day. I'm sure some people have not been nice to them. I want to treat everyone like I would like to be treated and if I have helped even one person today by being nice to them, then my job is done." You know what? He also started greeting people the same way. It's contagious. Try it, you might like it.
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    this is a great way to great others but you have to mean it

    I try to do this but some times I just cant get myself to wish a person a good day it is almost as if I want them to have a crappy day I need to work on this alot more thank you for the amazing article

    have a fantastic day
    1069 days ago
  • BLUEJAY1969
    I think that all the negative or "bad" things that have happened in my live have made me the person I am today and without them, I would not be who or where I am. That is how I look at negative situations now too.... I always try and see how it changed me in a positive way. Maybe not right away but as soon as I have dealt with the negative "vibes". Being bipolar this is sometimes a trick to accomplish but I always get there in the long run! I also try very hard to not let the negative affect the way I treat others and I think that I do a really good job of that! Great blog!
    1069 days ago
    My resilient personality type is such that I would keep digging for the pony and if none use the muck for flower bed or sell it.
    1070 days ago
    Awesome way to turn things around!
    1070 days ago
    Yes emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon What a better world
    it would be! emoticon emoticon
    1070 days ago
  • RAMONA1954
    This is so true. I say "have a great day" alot too.
    1070 days ago
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