Today one of lovely team leaders directed us to the article about WillPower. So I read it, and too be truthful, got nothing out of it.
I have lived too long with my Will Power to trust it. As quickly as I state "I'm gonna do this" or "I'm NEVER going to do this again", I have set myself up for failure. Will Power shows up and says "Oh yeah? Well, watch THIS! I am not going to leave you alone for a SECOND without the thought of what you think you are not going to do! I RUN THIS SHOW!!!"
And sure enough, the thing I am not going to do stays in my mind, calling, calling, calling. It can be anything......cookies, cigarettes, chocolate, cheesecake, ........all those things that call and say "Just a little won't hurt you!".
Then comes in Ms. Justification. SHE says "well, look how well you have been doing. Look how hard you work. Look how many times we have climbed the stairs up and down, up and down, all day. Look how many times you walk Benny. You DESERVE this! Don't be so HARD on yourself!"
Here comes Ms. Pretend, following right behind Ms. Justification. SHE says "well, since ONE won't hurt, we will just pretend it never happened."
She is an easy one to hang out with!
But aren't these the core of the matter for us?
I love to ignore the fact that I have sat on my duff hour after hour, then go for a short walk and count it as "Working the Program for Success". It is easy to get myself into the "I DESERVEs". I have never been very good at resisting self praise.
Oh boy. Here comes Ms. I Deserve. She can be either friend or foe. Depends on her mood of the hour. Most of the time she is sneaky and doesn't announce herself much. She just barges right on in and says "Go ahead and praise yourself. If I don't do it, no one else WILL".
There is a difference between Praising ourselves as a means to justify what sneaky thing we will pretend never happened And Praising ourselves with the truth.
One of the best ways I can be beneficial to the self praising is to PRE-TRACK. That adds a responsibility and commitment claus to life.
I stopped doing that with my food for a while. I have been on a 168 plateau for entirely too long. I want to throw away 8 pounds. That's when I look and feel my best.
By not pre-tracking, it is too easy to fall back into the Justification and Deserve mind sets.
By DOING the pre-tracking, my brain keeps focused on that commitment.
I follow the commitment, lose the extra weight, and am PROUD OF MYSELF for being an adult who takes care of her own body!