"Tough Love" Retaliation?
Friday, July 22, 2016
On June 6, 2016 I wrote a blog called "Tough Love". You can read it here:
At the time, I received nothing but positive feedback on this blog. This past weekend, enough people had clicked "I Liked This" to make this blog a featured blog. Once the blog became featured, I began to get a few comments where I was called "judgmental". One person even wrote their own blog berating my blog. In the comments section of THAT blog (which I will not link to), it was also inferred that I was judgmental, immature, and unempathetic. It was also suggested that if I did not like a blog I should just get over it and move on. This person felt I was directly judging her, but I'm not sure how that's actually possible, since I didn't know she existed until two days ago, and I wrote this blog more than six weeks ago. Also, the comments on her blog her blog were people telling her that they were sorry I had done this to her. I'm still a little confused about how the blog I wrote on my personal SparkPage could have been a direct attack on someone I didn't even know existed.
Honestly, I was taken aback by the amount of vitriol being spewed in my direction by total strangers. Just today I was told by a different person (I'm giving the benefit of the doubt here) that my legs "seem kind of heavy" and that I would be better off "exercising your body instead of your mouth". This same person went to my profile picture and commented "FAT". Yes, you read that right. I was body shamed on a weight loss website. By someone who disagreed with me.
The blog I wrote came from the heart. I will not delete it. I will not apologize for it. I will not delete the rude or hateful comments, and I will not make my page private. I WILL, however, speak out when I am harassed. If you harass me, your public comments and behavior will remain public. I will not lash out. I will not come to your page and harass you. I will not even send you a SparkMail about it. I don't need to. Your public behavior says more about you than I ever could.
I've been here a long time. I've lost 115 lbs total. I've kept 105 of that off for going on 2 years, and the other 10 lbs has come back in muscle. I'm happy in my skin, and I'm proud of what I've accomplished. Being proud of my hard work doesn't make me vain or narcissistic, nor does it make me a braggart. Being excited about being chosen to be in a magazine doesn't make me an attention whore. I refuse to be shamed for being myself, because there's nothing to be ashamed of.
Today my goal will be to go to 10 stranger's Spark Pages and leave a positive comment on their blog. I will repay this negativity with positivity.