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The Sun has Dimmed Today

Sunday, July 17, 2016

A few minutes ago, my eldest sister Mary sent me a message that one of our other sisters, Jenny, died yesterday. I know no more than that. The last time I saw Jenny was in June of 1971 when Mother sent me to live with my dad. Two weeks later, our older brother died saving a boy's life.

In recent years, thanks to social media, I got back in at least minimal touch with the two older sisters and the youngest, but Jenny was never in touch. These are the sisters who have children and spouses I've never met.

I don't know if there will be a service or if I will be able to attend. My desire to mourn my sister and reconnect with my family may be trumped by Mother's desire to continue to keep her distance from me. I will respect that and can mourn separately.

I told Mary that I am ready to contribute to Jenny's memorial, service, costs or whatever. For all the birthdays, Christmases and other special events that I have missed, it is the least I can do.

I am still in shock. My heart is broken, both at the news of Jenny's passing and the sorrow that I will never get to reconnect with her.
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  • WHITNEYLD
    Sorry for your loss.
    874 days ago
  • SRWYLIE
    I'm so sorry that I've let a week go by without offering my deepest condolences and sympathy for the loss of your sister. It's heartbreaking to lose a sibling, but even more so when you don't have all the shared memories to fall back on in your time of grief. I hope that you are able to find comfort in your family and friends, and know that time and love will ease the pain you're feeling. My heart goes out to you, and your family too. Big hugs.
    875 days ago
  • MAWMAW101
    I am so sorry. Just take care of yourself in the best way you can. emoticon
    For what it's worth, my sisters and I have similar stories after the death of our mom.

    881 days ago
  • _LINDA
    So very sorry for your loss :-( You have such a large family that has been visited with so much tragedy. It is truly evil that estrangement must be endured on top of that. I would hope there would be some compassion there. Your Mother's behavior serves no one, especially herself.
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    882 days ago
  • GBATTEN4
    My condolences.. Sorry for your loss
    882 days ago
  • MOBETTER6
    Sorry for your loss.
    882 days ago
  • SSMITH762
    I am so sorry for your loss and for the family history. I don't know why your mom feels the way she does, but there is not harming in trying ti reconnect. The worst that can happen is they say no.
    882 days ago
  • LUDIEH
    I am so sorry. I have not really spoken with my sister in years & we live less than 25 minutes apart. It started 38 years ago when our mother was dying of cancer & she completely deserted her. Long story. Bad ending. Peace to you is what I pray.
    882 days ago
  • no profile photo MEHMIMI
    I am so sorry
    882 days ago
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