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Food is not the problem

Wednesday, June 15, 2016

Food is not the problem. The issue is the way you use it against yourself.

Food has been a problem for a lot of us. We have used it to soothe our aches and pains, used to to comfort ourselves in times of stress, used it to cover up our insecurities at being overweight. We have hidden food, eaten in secret, gobbled things down, sometimes with great shame.

Why? Why have we used food for years, as a comfort, when it is nothing of the sort? Why do we continue to think of food, when something happens, when we are in a higher stress level? Do we not realize that we actually wear the food we eat every day? We are hiding NOTHING.

I think some of it stems from childhood. How many times did parents offer food as a prize? Be good and I will buy you something good to eat. Be good, and you will get a cookie. If you behave, I will buy you candy when you leave the store. It is ingrained in some of us, that food is a gift, a present, a prize for good behavior.

It is nothing of the sort. It is sustenance, and because of advertising, it has become something that we GET when we are good, bad or even indifferent.

To succeed at the weight loss game, the first step is to dump alluring and useless food from your life. To learn to love fresh food, to stop going to ANY fast food restaurants, to change the relationship we have with food. It is imperative that this happen, or weight loss success will never happen. If you lose weight, and do not change your relationship with food, you will not keep the weight off. If you do not get sugar, white food, salt, ANYTHING processed out of your life, you will not be able to be healthy late in life, and you will continue your addiction to those foods.

Food is not the problem, our relationship with food is the problem. Cut out one thing every week, until you are only buying things that you make, that are grown by Mother Nature, or that you are clearly able to understand the ingredients of.

You will be happier, healthier and THINNER!!

Spark on.
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    Very well written. Food is a crutch for us from time to time. Like an old friend. Sometimes its better to leave an old friend and pick a new healthy one. Changing our habits take time. Changing one thing at a time will give us the lesson that we can change all that is holding us back from being what we want to be.
    1761 days ago
  • DS9KIE
    1761 days ago
    Why do you think they call it "comfort food"? We've all grown up with those messages. Food is comfort, or food is punishment (I'll send you to bed without supper if you don't behave!). My big issue is the clean-plate syndrome. I am OCD about making sure I eat everything on my plate. If I go out to eat, I try to box half of it up before I start eating, because I know if I don't I will eat everything, and that's too much.

    I'm getting better, but I'm still a work in progress. Learning healthy substitutes has been the solution that works for me.

    You are awesome!

    1763 days ago
    And have you noticed that Ads, both on TV and in magazines, show people outlandishly happy (big smiles, emoticon laughing, etc) when they are eating! Not very subliminal, is it? But we accept it, as we have been taught to think it, so it looks right to us and we think if we get that food we will have that experience, too! emoticon
    Thanks for the push to see it like it is...
    1763 days ago
  • L*I*T*A*
    1764 days ago
  • FRAN0426
    I can say for me it was never food for rewards or anything. However; as a kid I was eating anything I wanted and never had a weight problem. Back then, healthy eating really wasn't discussed, at least not in my family.
    So as I entered my early 50's weight started gradually climbing aboard this frame of mine, still kept eating what ever. I still have problems at times wanting to eat . For the most part, I have finally learned that food is not something we need for any reason than to nourish our body. The problem is now I under eat which also doesn't help with weight loss. I do not go by the amount they say I should eat after a great work out as tried that and weight just piled on ---so it is a struggle every day, but will not give up.
    1764 days ago
    To this day ... my mom will tell me to go get ice cream ... it makes everything better dontcha know.
    1764 days ago
  • HOLLYM48
    You said it! The more natural it is, the better it tastes. My daughter thought it was an odd combination for dinner tonight, beans, keilbasa and cauliflower. I said I was looking for healthy sides and in the end, she thought it all delicious!
    Spark on!
    1764 days ago
    emoticon emoticon I reinforce this thought every day as I savor my fresh apple, or orange or plain fat free yogurt... these are truly treats! And they, too, can feel comforting and rewarding!
    1764 days ago
    What a great blog! So "right on" about the many things we try and do with our food other then feed our bodies.
    1764 days ago
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  • no profile photo JEANNETTE59
    1764 days ago
    The thing is, I know I have used food as a reward for my kids too, and certainly their grandparents like to "treat" them with candy and ice-cream. It's hard to break the chain, but I am trying!
    1764 days ago
  • PHOENIX1949
    1764 days ago
    "Do we not realize that we actually wear the food we eat every day? We are hiding NOTHING."

    I LOVE this! I have always had issues with binge eating and hiding it. A light bulb just went off when I read what you wrote. I'm not hiding a thing! I'm wearing it, for goodness sake! Love it! Thanks for helping me make that connection!
    1764 days ago
    Succinct and well put..... Thanks!
    1764 days ago
    Yes. This. Exactly!
    1764 days ago
  • no profile photo CHAYOR73
    BOY!! That first statement is so true, your blog is right on target!!
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    1764 days ago
    This really got me thinking. I have a toddler and totally do the cookies if your good. From now on it's a toy!!! THANK YOU!!!
    1764 days ago
    **Food is not the problem, our relationship with food is the problem.** That, in one sentence, sums it up! We have to re-order, redefine our relationship w/food. When we do that, then there will be forward momentum.

    I agree w/this 100%
    1764 days ago
    1764 days ago
    I love spending time with my youngest son, especially traveling. He views food simply as something he must ingest in order to maintain his health - period! He doesn't particularly like or not like any food, it's simply maintenance to him. I wish I had that attitude.

    Your message is particularly timely for me right now. This waiting around for news about MIL is stressful and my response to stress is food. That bad habit has improved so much but right now it's rearing it's ugly head. Plus our lives are being disrupted making it challenging to prepare dinner. Today I'm putting my dinner in the slow cooker this morning so it's ready for us whenever we have a chance to eat dinner. For now we're just waiting to hear..... Yesterday afternoon we were told the end was near - this time I went with Tom only to come home two hours later. We still haven't had any word.
    1764 days ago
    This. Is. So. True. We have to stop thinking of food as a comfort and reward, as time killer and social nexus. Or we'll go back to using it that way after we each our goal...if we ever do.
    1764 days ago
    So true!! All of it!
    1764 days ago
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