One of the happiest moments in life, is when you find the courage to let go of what you cannot change.
I looked for a quote like this today. I needed to see it, because my parents showed up yesterday, after a two week car journey to get here.
I had not seen them, since a trip to Southern California at Christmas. My Mom was having difficulties with memory at Christmastime, and it was hard to leave her. I knew, and know, she is in the best possible hands, as my Father is completely devoted to her. Nonetheless, it is wrenching.
They are staying at my sister's house. I had not spoken with my sister since before Christmas, as she has a LOT of problems. I talked my darling Daughter into coming with me last night to dinner, and I was so glad to have her with me.
Mom is so much worse. She couldn't follow a conversation, she asked my DD who was sitting next to her, and it was her first granddaughter. It was a tough night, not for me, because I have known this was going on, and was under no illusions about the incidiousness of this disease.
My DD was shocked, but did an awesome job of keeping my Mom somewhat occupied, and didn't lose any cool, and we finally got to talk on the way home.
My sister and her family are arrogant. They actually have a belief that they are better then we are, because they live in a big house. Big houses do not bring happiness. They do not bring joy, and they do not make you better.
My DD and I decided that we were very happy to be us, on the way home. I have felt that every time I have left my sister's house for many years, and was delighted to see my DD understand it.
Mom will continue to worsen. I am going to visit more often, as I cannot even comprehend the heartbreak of my Father, and I want to help in any way possible.
I cannot change this. I cannot change my sister. I can be honored and thrilled to have such a great kid, who makes me prouder every single day. I can love my Mother with every fiber of my being, and love my Father for loving her and being so awesome.
Life throws us curveballs. It is the way that you catch them that matters.