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Depressed? Sad? What to do?

Tuesday, May 31, 2016

How do you know when you are struggling with depression? I feel depressed about a situation and most days don't want to leave home. So I struggle through a work day and put on a happy face until I can get back home again. There are a few days that I feel good & maybe even happy, but it doesn't last. It started with empty nest back in Sept so I have assumed it is situational, that maybe I need to give it a full year to grieve. But my youngest isn't speaking to me which makes it all the worse. Around the same time this started my bestest workout friend moved away. I've tried going to workouts and don't feel better afterwards. In fact I want to cry because I can't seem to do the things I used to do. As a result, I've gained quite a bit of weight back. Which makes me even sadder. At what point do you decide to see a doctor? Anyone have experience?
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    Just wanted to give an update...I started counseling this week and it was confirmed without a doubt that I am clinically depressed. I have chosen to not use meds yet, but focus on counseling and what I expect to be some hard work. After my first session & having to unpack 14 years of pain, I had to go home and sleep from exhaustion. Thanks again for your encouragement & support.
    1221 days ago
    Thanks for the comments everyone. Teresa - I feel like you know me well enough to speak those truths and I am grateful for them. I feel your hugs even though you are hours away. Maybe next time you come to Lex. And I'm fortunate to have a counselor on staff at my new job. I will chat with her soon. I think she will be shocked...I never show these feelings at work or church. Just do the usual, "I'm great" and move on. Thanks for hearing me and loving me as Spark Friends. emoticon
    1236 days ago
    Absolutely, you are describing depression, situational or not. I highly recommend that you see a counselor. It is important to ask them what theories they subscribe to for depression. Medical doctors will only give you a pill which may or may not work for you (which means they will have to keep switching until they find the one that works.) I'm not against medicines, just for talk therapy. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is highly effective.
    Don't forget your dose of daily sunshine as well!
    If at any point you begin to think about hurting yourself, that's an immediate cause to tell your hubby and get to a doctor or therapist.
    You are meant to live a life without depression for this long. We all need a boost every now and then as things change.
    Make an appointment with a counselor today.
    Between now and your appointment, read some articles on how to cope with empty-nest. It is very common to struggle with it to the point of needing help.
    I wish I lived close enough to chat in person. Sending you sincere hugs and prayers from here.
    emoticon Teresa
    1237 days ago
    Depressed and or depression are two completely different entities. Are you depressed or are you in depression. A doctor can figure that out for you so I suggest you seek one out and figure what is going on with you. Best wishes.
    1237 days ago
    Seeing a doctor for a complete physical work up, and maybe a counsellor/therapist to talk through the issues -- cognitive behaviour therapy is effective for many people. Exercise also helps a lot with depression . . .
    1237 days ago
    I'm sure everyone gets depressed at some point. For me it became an issue with my day to day and relationship, so I did speak with my doc, he put me on a pill called pristiq, which I took for a year or so, then I took myself off-which doctor didn't like, but I wanted to deal with stuff my self. Hard, but I'm doing better without. Hope you find some answers.
    1237 days ago
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