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What if you just gave up?

Tuesday, May 17, 2016

What if you said, "I'm done with weight loss." What if you stopped summoning the inner strength to say no to every delicious thing you want to eat? What if you just decided that you're ok with being who you are right now, at your size, with your face, with your body...

Maybe I'll try it.

I've been doing this weight loss dance for many years now, and boy is it getting tiring.

What if, instead of disliking my body in its current state, I decided that I really like it? My cuddly, jiggling, warm, cozy body. Great for snuggles and bear hugs. Strong enough to lift my 35 pound kid over my head, strong enough to carry armloads of grocery and laundry, and still soft enough in the midsection to be a pillow for my kid's head as she falls asleep while watching Paw Patrol.

What if instead of focusing on willing it to change, I just decided to treat it well? Feed it lots of fruits of veggies, consistently exercise, and be OK with it, just like it is?

Why are we fighting so hard? I'm tired of fighting. I've been fighting tooth and nail to rid myself of 20 pounds just to gain back 30. Over and over and over again.

Let's take it easy and see what happens.

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    Not sure if you're still even on Sparkpeople, but I ran across this today. Sounds like me in so many ways, and when I got there, I picked up a book by Michelle May called Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat (cheap on Amazon). And it embraces that mindset.
    1417 days ago
    Tracy, you have a really good point. I am very tired of all the dieting and focusing on weight, too. I've been through lots of times when I think exactly like you do here, but no matter how many times I quit trying to lose weight, I always come back to trying. So much research has been done lately, pointing to the fact that weight loss gets harder and harder the more we diet, so it's really just all so difficult to decide what to do! Even when I understand how much it would help my joint problem if I lost this excess weight, when bad things happen in my daily life that make me lose confidence, I still always get the urge to drown my sorrows in food.

    I have some ideas of why eating became a problem for me and why it's so difficult to change. Right now, though, I'm just trying to focus on managing the behavior, planning later to maybe get some counseling to help me maintain any motivation I can muster up. I hope we both find peace, my dear, and somehow stay healthy whichever path we choose. I think most of us here are still trying to figure everything out, and I hope we can help each other through.
    1850 days ago
    I've read lots of accounts of people who found health by doing just that. Focusing more on feeding yourself well, out of love for your body, moving because it feels good, and simply taking good care of yourself instead of fighting and battling.

    Do what you need to do for you, because you are beautiful and wonderful and worth all of the love.
    1852 days ago
    Timely blog today as I had to pray through some self hate and realize that my body is just right for today. Yes, jiggly and thick but as you said, cuddly and warm too. What if we loved ourselves right this moment and tried to care for THIS body with good nutrition and activity because we are wonderful and deserving without trying to change a thing? Strange thought for those of us who fight constantly with ourselves but totally worth trying.
    1852 days ago
    Sorry about the typos. I'm trying to use my phone. kind of way we had a bad storm here in Mississippi and it knocked out my computer. I am using my phone to track my diet and exercise. Healthy doesn't mean you have to be skinny
    1853 days ago
  • KIMBERLY6664
    Trust me I would die and I would be looking like one of them whales in the ocean hahahaha
    1853 days ago
    It is frustration but let's push through this togetheršŸ˜Ž
    1853 days ago
    Sometimes I remind myself of ALL things I have to be grateful for instead of focusing on being overweight. I can walk, run and work! However, as I turned 50 this year I am starting to feel more of the effects of being overweight....joint pain and stage 1 hypertension. SO I agree,healthy eating, exercise and love yourself for who you are! emoticon
    1853 days ago
    I can understand your frustration,Iam the biggest of my sisters. Isuffer with bad knees and I can see the improvement. in waking since I started. riding my stationery bike. I also garden. Iam trying to build up my endurance.
    1853 days ago
  • DLITE719
    Well said.
    1853 days ago
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