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Positive Self Talk = Positive Self Attitude= Positive Self Actions

Friday, May 13, 2016

I signed up for the Realistic group,and today's challenge was about Positive Self Talk. I smiled when I saw it, because I happen to understand that and have practiced it a whole lot in my life.

Life doesn't have Thomas' Rules of Order, nor does it care if we get what we want or what we can go through.

Most of you know that my husband has Alzheimer's, and we live in Washington state. Our only living child, our daughter, has incurable brain cancer. She lives in Massachusetts.

I never know if I am in the right place or not.

I know and recognize that both of my loved ones will die before I do (Please God!), but they both need me to take care of them and do the things they cannot.

A lot of people have said "I don't know how you do it!". The answer is simple.

I HAVE NO CHOICE.

But I DO have a choice in how I do self talk in a positive way.

I look back on my life, and the times that were the hardest, were the times it took all I am to get through them. Those were also the times that molded my character. It took everything I had to keep going on, and that included believing in myself and my strengths.

It isn't always easy, but it is always possible, to do positive self talk. That is what will carry us through the painful times.

That, and love for others. I love my daughter and husband with all my heart and soul, and they keep me going.

I cannot afford negative self talk, because that leads to negative attitudes which lead to negative self action.

My words dictate what kind of day I am having.

Therefore, I treat my words with respect.
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  • RABBITOLM
    Your attitude is really inspiring, and I needed this this morning.
    776 days ago
  • -HEALTHYAMY
    At times I have a terrible time with negative self-talk. Thank you for posting such an honest and eloquent blog.
    787 days ago
  • SPATTEN2001
    Oh Sandy I so needed to read this blog post today .... I was in serious need of some gentle slapping to look around and see just how far I have come and not to focus so much on how far I still have to go! I am so sorry for the illnesses you are having to deal with right now and the coming hardships you will have to face ... stay strong for yourself and remember that we do not walk alone on these paths.
    791 days ago
  • RAYLINSTEPHENS
    I hear you - and I can almost relate.

    I do what has to be done, ONE day at a time.

    I have no time to complain some days and really, I don't want to complain. We do what is needed.

    My mother used to tell me, "your reward will be in heaven."

    I don't do it for heaven either - I do it ..... because I can.

    Bless you today Sandy. I "liked" your blog!
    792 days ago
  • LAURALYN-MARIE
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    792 days ago
  • CHERIRIDDELL
    You are very inspiring to me like you I face challenges I have no choice with.Sometimes it is good to read how someone else handles their challenges ,it gives you the conviction that you can too!
    792 days ago
  • AMYROSEC
    Is the Realistic group here on Spark?

    I am conflicted it seems I an working so hard to stay positive and that negative mindset is always there to pop out at any given time.
    792 days ago
  • DBEAU57
    Your words ring so true. We don't have a choice in the challenges God brings to us, but we do have a choice in how we face them. I admire your strength.
    793 days ago
  • EMMACORY
    Sandy, thank you for sharing. It takes no more energy to be positive than it does to be negative....however the positive energy is so much more beneficial to one's mental and physical health. I am adding you to my prayers and will light a candle for you and your family when I am in Rome. Blessings and hugs, June
    793 days ago
  • MNABOY
    Thanks for sharing a powerful lesson!
    793 days ago
  • DEBBY4576
    Good blog Sandy! We get thru because we have no choice in what's happening. If we don't talk positive to ourselves we can end up a blob on the couch wallowing in the hand we've been dealt.
    I liked what you said about the things in life we've gone thru molded us. The other day my daughter said she didn't know how I lived thru losing a child and then my sister. I wish I had read your blog for a better answer to her question.
    I know you will have helped others with your wise
    words. Good bless you.
    793 days ago
  • MARYANNGI
    Yesterday a friend came to me with news about her husband and it reminded me of the losses of 3 family members in my life and what she is facing.

    BUT NONE OF US HAVE A CHOICE!

    We do what we do to get through. There are days when we are in the right place and yesterday I was. That friend was there for me when my daughter was in the hospital and then passed. It was my turn to support her.

    Your blog helped me get through a rough day in so many ways. It reminded me to think about the good things that I have now and the good memories from the past. My day got so much better.

    Thank you so much. MaryAnn
    793 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/13/2016 8:14:07 PM
  • DIANEDOESSMILES
    So very well said Sandy !! INDEED negative self talk,, DOES INDEED lead to a negative attitude and the "I CAN'T DO IT" takes over our lives.

    I also do my best to think of the positives, though it's far from ur sitation, it's still serious. I am most likely losing my left big toe soon,,, and once that happens, it'll lead to more amputations until it reaches up to my knee. Nothing can stop this.. If I were to be down,,, crying saying "I CAN'T GO THROUGH THIS!" It would NOT change the situation, but it WOULD make me very depressed. I went through that after the car accident and couldn't work any more.. I LOVED my job,,, so I totally crashed. It took me years to recover with a TON of help for which I am very grateful,,, some of that help remains in place to this day. I NEVER want to go back there, the choice is MINE since it was a "situational" depression, for those who have a chemical imbalance there's NO choice,,,,, it's going to zap them. For some who also have situational depression,, as it was with me,,,,it ccan take years to get through it, but I NEVER EVER want to go back into it ! I AM FIGHTING this with ALL I HAVE.

    My faith in God (some go this route, some don't,,, it's a personal choice,,, no one should EVER try to cram this down someone elses throat,, and I am grateful SPARKs doesn't advocate religion on this site,,, there are though groups for those who wish to, otherwise it's nah,,, I won't do this myself especially being a leader. So this helps me to have believe tat God helps us through it all.

    with my positive attitude Sandy, as with you hon,,, we know we HAVE to go through these things,,,, its NOT a choice,, who would choose the things you are going through,, or even myself though it's less (forgot to mention going through this will shorten my life,,, I am very THANKFUL Mom and Dad are deceased,,, this would of hurt them horribly).

    WE ARE getting through this hon,,, and based on our attitudes,,, it helps to make it easier. MANY Hugs my friend. LOVE the flowers on ur background ! Those are GORGEOUS !
    793 days ago
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