I Wish I Had Time
Thursday, May 12, 2016
I hear that saying all the time. I heard it just today at lunch. Gee, I wish I had time...
...to eat right.
...to take care of myself.
I have something to tell you from all of us making time - SHUT IT.
Seriously, STOP saying "I just wish I had time..." and using that as an excuse to not do what you want to do in life. First of all, it's an insult to each and every one of us that make time to do those things. When you look at me and say, "I just wish I had time to do what you do..." it implies that my life is stagnant and boring and I have nothing in it which requires my attention. You act as if I have some privileged life of leisure and I can do whatever I want whenever I want without any consideration of responsibilities and other obligations. I seriously want to just look at you and yell, "SHOVE IT UP YOUR REAR!" right at your face.
I am a mother of two teenage sons.
Both of my boys have after-school, extra-curricular activities.
One is in band and trying out this year to be the drum major of his marching band. He's also active in the jazz band and volunteers to assist with setup and tear down activities for just about every event and competition and performance. He also just landed his first part-time job and is busy trying to navigate the world of becoming a young adult male - he even just worked out a deal to purchase his first vehicle, which he's slowly fixing up to use regularly.
The other child just finished up a rousing bench-warming season of his middle school baseball team. He is ALSO in band and has hornline auditions coming up because he specializes in not one, but three instruments - trumpet, french horn and mellophone. He's currently considering a spot on the band board next year and always volunteers for extra work at performances and competitions as well AND is my best (usually) at fundraising. That same son recently auditioned and was accepted into his high school chorus AND show choir competition squad. This summer he will be sharing his time with summer band and summer chorus camps.
As the mother of these two boys, I not only have to teach them the ways of the world having various talks and discussions about job etiquette, keeping up your grades, applying to colleges, being loyal to your after-school commitments, and still doing your at-home chores. I also have to teach them about bank accounts and savings accounts and car insurance and ordering things online and girls...oh, the talk (lectures) about girls!
I'm also your typical PTO-type mom whenever I can be. Even though I work full-time at a salary paid job that often takes me on the road for days at a time. Even though I also run a small business as a photographer and spend nearly every weekend shooting and editing and marketing and building my brand. I am also an active member of Band Boosters and will begin my first Choral Boosters meetings this summer. I help with fundraisers and sponsorships and chaperoning.
I also have 4 furbabies at home who all need attention and care. And a husband who is sometimes the most needy of all.
At my full-time job, I've been asked to take on the duties of another individual we had to let go. I work 2 jobs, basically, in the time most people do one. And I constantly feel like I'm playing catchup. That job requires me to supervise no less than 10 individuals across the entire state. I'm also responsible for being on various committees, councils, and providing reporting information to various organizations.
I do all of this, and I still manage to find time to workout and eat right and take care of myself.
I'm not saying this to brag. I promise. That's not my point at all.
My point is that when you belittle all I do and say things like, "Well, I just wish I had the time..." you make me feel bad about my ability to do those things.
You also put yourself down by saying those things. By not making time to do important things like workout and eat right - you're telling yourself that your health and well-being is not important. And that's just not true.
I get it. You have a job, maybe many jobs. You have kids, maybe many kids. You may have a spouse or significant other. You may be working your tail off navigating the single world trying to find love. But all of those things - each and every situation in your life - is only improved when you make a conscious decision to be good to yourself.
Your kids become inspired by your commitment to your own well-being. They start to imitate what they see and they see you setting a good example for them.
Your job becomes easier and less stressful when you take the time to release that stress through regular exercise and when you fuel your body with the proper fuel to keep your mind focused and your intent clear. Your coworkers respond to your more positive outlook and your renewed energy and it prompts them to treat you better and recognize your efforts and hard work as well.
Your spouse or significant other should be there cheering you on too! Most partners find working out and eating right to be a healthy way to connect to one another.
So, don't find time. Don't wish for time. MAKE TIME. Make it happen. It is important. YOU are important.