Working BECK Works!

Saturday, February 27, 2016

Joe and I went out to eat yesterday, as we often do on weekends. He works 10 hour days and normally has a three day weekend, unless he works overtime.

Besides eating out together, we both love to cook and take turns cooking on weekend nights. These times of eating together, over the years, have become a signal for me that I can eat all I want. It's the weekend!

Of course, this generally means I lose a pound or two during the week and gain it back every weekend. Even knowing this, I haven't been able to change this behavior in the past.

So yesterday, I sat across from him at breakfast and watched him order his favorite breakfast which has enough calories in it to wipe out my entire calorie allotment for the day. In the past, I ordered the same thing because I also like it, but mostly because I couldn't watch him eat that and expect myself to be fully satisfied with anything else.

But now that I have Beck in my head, (I guess you could say I now have a Beck Brain, lol.) I found a moderate breakfast on the menu and ordered that. When our food arrived, we talked and ate as we usually do. When I was "done" I pushed my plate away and observed that half of my order was uneaten on my plate.

Last night we were watching tv together and laughing because I had been at his house for an hour and the program we were streaming had been watched for 3 minutes. We laughed because, even after 16 yrs, we enjoy talking to each other so much, it took us an hour to get through 3 minutes of tv.

Anyway, I started telling him about CBT in the Beck book and realized, for the first time that day, that I had watched him eat "our" favorite breakfast while I ate my very moderate one, AND only ate half of it!

I didn't even realize that at the time. I didn't feel deprived. I had no cravings for what he ate. I felt very satisfied and very happy!

THAT is the difference that "changing your mind", the way you think, that is brought about by "Working Beck". For this to happen to ME is the last thing I ever expected.

I suppose that I was very ready for Beck and the cognitive way to approach losing weight.

And I'm down another pound.

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  • GORDON66
    Most excellent!!!


    1116 days ago
    The change in mindset is amazing, isn't it? CBT works!

    Well done! Like you said, Beck works, when you work Beck.
    1116 days ago
  • GABY1948
    OH YES! I have had such experiences myself! AMAZING to me at the time too! Now in blogs I always call "us" (Beck followers) "Beckists" or "Becksters". We are all DIFFERENT than even the maintainers who have been maintaining many years but "other ways". It IS different. As I said in my last comment on the last blog...I tell EVERYONE I meet, in the store, in the hospital...because it is a LIFE changer and CAN WORK for anyone! When they find out I weighed 336 at one time in my life, they are ALL EARS! I only pray they do check it out and I just went to order it in paperback (softcover) after your last blog! THANKS for that info!

    So have a blessed Beck weekend for sure, Karen!
    It's finally gorgeous today 47F and sunny and MELTING the snow a LOT!

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    1117 days ago
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    Amazing realization that you did not even have to fight cravings especially in a situation where you had a long standing conditioning, where you used to eat habitually and probably mindlessly before.. The trend is reversing!!!

    Your blog is just what i needed to read as i am starting Beck again after many years.

    Thanks for the inspiration and all the best on your road.
    1117 days ago
    Weekend overeating is a huge hurdle to get over. I certainly wish it would be like this for me too but I am still very skeptical.
    1117 days ago
    emoticon This is a HUGE triumph for your Beck Brain! Wonderful, too, that you "just did it" and didn't notice until later.

    The social aspect of food is hard to overcome. Overeating with my husband was a ritual for me, too. To realize that you can have the company without the calories is really big.

    Give yourself a giant bouquet of credit!!!!

    1117 days ago
  • JIBBIE49
    I love Judith Beck PhD since she has stayed slim for the past 30 years using her method.
    1117 days ago
    Stay on track
    1117 days ago
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