Working BECK Works!
Saturday, February 27, 2016
Joe and I went out to eat yesterday, as we often do on weekends. He works 10 hour days and normally has a three day weekend, unless he works overtime.
Besides eating out together, we both love to cook and take turns cooking on weekend nights. These times of eating together, over the years, have become a signal for me that I can eat all I want. It's the weekend!
Of course, this generally means I lose a pound or two during the week and gain it back every weekend. Even knowing this, I haven't been able to change this behavior in the past.
So yesterday, I sat across from him at breakfast and watched him order his favorite breakfast which has enough calories in it to wipe out my entire calorie allotment for the day. In the past, I ordered the same thing because I also like it, but mostly because I couldn't watch him eat that and expect myself to be fully satisfied with anything else.
But now that I have Beck in my head, (I guess you could say I now have a Beck Brain, lol.) I found a moderate breakfast on the menu and ordered that. When our food arrived, we talked and ate as we usually do. When I was "done" I pushed my plate away and observed that half of my order was uneaten on my plate.
Last night we were watching tv together and laughing because I had been at his house for an hour and the program we were streaming had been watched for 3 minutes. We laughed because, even after 16 yrs, we enjoy talking to each other so much, it took us an hour to get through 3 minutes of tv.
Anyway, I started telling him about CBT in the Beck book and realized, for the first time that day, that I had watched him eat "our" favorite breakfast while I ate my very moderate one, AND only ate half of it!
I didn't even realize that at the time. I didn't feel deprived. I had no cravings for what he ate. I felt very satisfied and very happy!
THAT is the difference that "changing your mind", the way you think, that is brought about by "Working Beck". For this to happen to ME is the last thing I ever expected.
I suppose that I was very ready for Beck and the cognitive way to approach losing weight.
And I'm down another pound.