We celebrated Valentine's Day cleaning the house from top to bottom, then prepared a wonderful meal for 6 of our friends to share with us tonight. The table is set, and everything looks gorgeous.
Steve and I shared a memory yesterday of our second "wedding." Back on February 13, 2004, we waited in line at San Francisco City Hall along with many other gay and lesbian couples (we were couple number 86 in line, which snaked around the corridors and all the way outside and around the block). Our mayor decided to flout state law at the time and allow same-sex couples to get married in San Francisco. Once the word got out, everyone knew about it, and we wanted to be part of it.
We arrived at city hall around 7:30am. We had heard that many people had been deputized so that they could perform weddings over the weekend. The county clerk's office opened early and stayed open late to serve as many couples as possible, and they even worked through the weekend. It was an amazing coming-together of energy and enthusiasm for something that most San Franciscans believed was the loving and right thing to do.
Our ceremony was about 11am. I had called my boss earlier to tell him I wouldn't be in, and that if he was up on the news, he'd know why. His response was "How can I get in on this?" I told him I would let him know when we were close enough to the window so he'd have enough time to get down to city hall to be a witness for us. He arrived about 10:30 with a dozen of my teammates, who formed a circle around us for the ceremony.
We got lucky and had our service right at the top of the stairs, in the rotunda. There was a TV camera behind us, and Rusty Dornin, a CNN reporter at the time, was waiting to interview us as soon as the ceremony was over. We got our 15 seconds of fame, and the interview was broadcast nationally later that afternoon.
My boss signed the marriage license, and we all celebrated before my team went back to the office and Steve and I went out to have a romantic lunch to start our own celebration. The following evening, Valentine's Day, the mayor and board of supervisors invited all the couples who had been married the past three days to come down for a celebration party. There were easily between one and two thousand people who attended. It was amazing.
Our mayor (now lieutenant governor) wanted to lead the charge toward marriage equality. Many people told him he was foolish and disrespected the will of the people. I am so grateful that there is now a clear majority of people who believe that marriage should be enjoyed by all who desire it. Mayor Newsom wanted to do something that would benefit society and potentially change people's minds and hearts. I believe he succeeded.
In the end, it's all about love.
Happy Valentine's Day!