This is not my blog.
Ok, well, it is, but I'm using it to share the words of someone else. Gregg Kretch, of the ToDo institute, on the subject of love, attention and perspective.
"As long as we hold fast to our ideal of what we deserve from the world, we blind ourselves to the gifts we are receiving.
"We look back on our childhood and notice what could have been done for us and given to us, that we think would have made us happier. The gap between our reality and our ideal of what it should have been like attracts our attention like a magnet. But to focus on this gap is to miss most of reality.
"We miss the countless moments when we were perfectly cared for and attended to.
"We trade the reality of how we were loved for the illusion that we should have been loved more, and better. It's an unworthy exchange that leads us to spiritual and emotional bankruptcy."
I've added spaces for emphasis.
It can be so easy, especially with a 'special day' like Valentine's Day coming up (and all the commercialized pressure to observe it in a certain way), to feel like one isn't getting 'what we deserve' - or, more accurately, what a market-driven segment of society seems to say we should get, or do, or have... It's depressing! It's the root of depression, in fact. Expectations, comparisons and the like set us up for inevitable disappointment.
Let me just say, without grand elaboration, that I am fortunate for what I have and I am grateful for the love in my life - past, present and future.
Love to all my Spark friends! *muah!*
You can check out the quote here along with one of Gregg's weekly articles.