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Alzheimer's, the DMV and Insanity

Sunday, February 07, 2016

Yesterday was DH's driving test. He has Alzheimer's, and it ain't getting any better, nor will it.

So the DMV sends him this notice that his license is suspended until he takes a written and driving test, which are scheduled at different times.

I take him to the written test, and couldn't believe it!! He PASSES! I am sure he marked the answers with no idea what he was even being asked.

We get to the DMV, he gets behind the wheel, and the instructor tells him to demonstrate how he would arm signal that he was going to turn left.

DH turns on the turning signals in the car.

Instructor asks him again. DH points his finger at the man and yells "LEFT!!!"

Instructor asks him to demonstrate the arm signal for right turn.

DH points his finger toward the right.

Instructor says "No, use your ARM to signal a right turn".

DH throws his arm over the passenger seat and points with his finger to the glove compartment.

Finally, the instructor sees that this is not working as he hoped it would. He comes over to me and asks who is doing the driving in our house. When I tell him "I am", he lets out an audible sigh of relief.

BUT THEN!!!!!

We go inside the building and the instructor GIVES DH A NEW TEST DATE FOR FEB. 20!!!!

I can't believe this!! The guy actually thinks he is doing humanity a favor by giving DH another chance to create mayhem on the roads!!

No matter what I have told the DMV, they keep insisting "He passed the written test, and has earned a road test".

Heaven help all of us!!!!
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  • GOULDSGRANITE
    Just when we are old enough to think that life starts to make sense!?! WOW - go figure! Heaven help us is right! Feeling for you Sandy - Love to you. emoticon
    885 days ago
  • BDTHOM
    Last November with his drivers license expiring on his 81st birthday, my father gave up his drivers license. We took him to the DMV to get an id card. If you asked him today, he wouldn't remember doing this. His Alzheimer's has progressed that much. If you talked patiently with him about it, he'd come to the same conclusion that he should surrender his license. I'm glad he made the decision on his own and did it while he was still in control.

    All I can say is step back and let the DMV deal with it. They don't understand Alzheimer's generally goes one direction only.

    Blessings for the (lunar) New Years.
    891 days ago
  • CHERIRIDDELL
    It really is insanity but really your husband's doctor is the one at fault.I think the laws should be changed so that the doctors could be sued if the Alzheimer's patient hurts someone .Hopefully your husband will fail the road test on the 20th as he clearly should but I still blame the doctor for putting you through this How can the families protect their loved ones if the doctors allow this? I paid with my mobility because a doctor here was too cowardly to say an Alzheimer's patient could not drive.Do you know they would not tell me who his doctor was? I did not think there was any point in a victim impact statement to a man with Alzheimer's and his family already had enough on their plate but I would have liked it to go to his doctor but the courts did not allow that only to his wife and children and I refused to do that.
    891 days ago
  • AALLEY2
    Omg, my prayers for you both, and the DMV.
    892 days ago
  • TOWHEE
    I suspect that the DMV has only one set of rules and the testers apply it to both new drivers (teens mostly) and previous drivers (like you, me, and your DH). The rules appear to be pass the written test, then pass the road test. When I got my license in CA over 50 years ago, I had 3 chances to pass the road test after passing the written test.

    I agree that the way WA DMV handles your husband's case is insanity, but I also suspect that they've been sued in the past for "discrimination against people with disabilities". So they are in a no-win situation and those of us who use the roads are the ones who may pay with our lives. emoticon

    It's too bad that DH's doctor said it was OK for DH to drive. That's where the craziness started.

    What would happen if your DH didn't show up on the 20th?

    892 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/7/2016 10:24:37 PM
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