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WLS? Why?!?

Friday, January 15, 2016

Yesterday I admitted to having had weight loss surgery.

I am not entirely sure why I feel like it's a guilty confession. But I do. A prejudice in my own mind, I'm sure. Maybe it's the less than enthusiastic feedback I'd gotten before?

I think that I am ashamed that I couldn't do it on my own.

And I couldn't. OMG, I tried for years, and only made things worse.

I tried nearly every diet out there. For the most part I had some initial success, then fell off the wagon for one reason or another, and was never able to quite get back up.

Then, at my highest weight ever, I was my sister's maid of honor. In a huge pastel satin strapless embarrassment. I still can't look at the pictures. I couldn't take the shame.

For me that was rock bottom, and it was time to do something drastic.

I mentioned it to a friend, who said "NO" and I dropped the subject, but kept thinking about it. Apparently she did too, because she brought it up again later, and said there was an info session at a nearby medical center.

So we went, both determined to be open minded about the whole thing. I really had no idea what to expect.

(Stay tuned for more!)
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  • SEAGLASS1215
    No need to feel ashamed or guilty! If I thought it would help me, I would probably do it right away but, as mentioned before, I need to resolve my emotional eating issues first or no amount of surgery will work for me...why go through all of that only to face an emotional binge or two and end up ruining the surgery or endangering my health with ripped stitches, etc?
    1222 days ago
    You know what is best for you. No need to ne ashamed. I considered it, but realise my issues will stil be there after surgery, so i am not sure if it would be worth it. So decided to give it a try the usual way.
    1223 days ago
    Every person needs to decide for him/herself what is the best thing to do. We are all different and no one knows you and what you can or can't do better than you do.
    So I really hope you can let go of that feeling of shame.
    While I would not easily decide to have WLS myself I have a lot of respect for the fact that you did make that choice. It is a huge step and I think it takes quite a bit of courage to make the decision.

    1223 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/15/2016 7:46:16 AM
  • DSJB9999
    No guilt, you have done best think for you! Glad u are happy you did it. Hugs x
    1223 days ago
    So you were "coming out" in your previous blog?
    Tricky blog technique....Dragon-Chick. Maybe you were testing the waters with your fellow Sparkers? Anyway, people on Spark love info, so please share.
    And we are supportive, hopefully not judgmental. I do admit to being fearful because medical stuff and images creep me out, but that is just me. No nurse aptitude in me.
    Wish I were more comfortable with medical stuff.

    Go for it. You are a brave soul. Wishing you the best.

    1223 days ago
    You shouldn't feel guilty at all. Wls is a tool that helps some people conquer weight when other options don't work. Don't let other people's opinions get you down...it's your journey, not theirs.
    1223 days ago
    There's nothing wrong with wls. My mom had it almost 20 years ago and I know it's extended her life and helped her immensely. She still struggles but who doesn't struggle with something?
    1223 days ago
    No guilt!
    1223 days ago
    There is nothing wrong with having had that surgery. Sometimes you need a little help and that's ok. Your fellow spark people will still be here for you and stand behind you!
    1223 days ago
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