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Having Type 2 Diabetes Doesn't Just Hurt You

Sunday, January 10, 2016

I just found out this weekend that my dad is on insulin to treat his type 2 diabetes. I'm really bummed by this news.

My grandpa died at 77 from liver and kidney failure after two triple heart bypasses, and being a type 2 diabetic for over half his life. He went from oral meds to insulin plus oral medications for his high cholesterol and it destroyed his liver and kidneys.

Dad will be 64 this year. I hate watching my dad do the same thing to himself. But he doesn't want to change his diet, he just wants to take a pill. He takes a handful of pills a day to keep himself "healthy". He doesn't exercise, not even walk. He still has bad mood swings from low blood sugar even though he's on meds.

I don't understand it and it makes me really sad.
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    Yup. About all you can do is let him know how you feel, give him the best advice you have to offer, and then try to let it go. My mom's been a yo-yo dieter all her life and at 90 she's STILL going on diets. She's always been fat, too. *shrug* Nothing I can say makes one little whit of difference.
    1667 days ago
    That is so hard!
    1668 days ago
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    I feel for you. Hang tough.
    1668 days ago
    I totally understand, my husband WAS a non compliant insulin dependant type 2 diabetic. It scares the fire out of me. I can't begin to count how many times his bs would bottom out in the middle of the night causing him to have seizures, all because he chose to take his insulin without checking his bs.

    After years of being afraid to sleep at night, worrying I wouldn't wake up to manage his convulsions, I decided enought was enough. His choice to pay Russian roulette with his diabetes was effecting my health. It was effecting our entire family. We all put our feet down and told him if he DIDN'T care then we COULDN'T and WOULDN'T care anymore, we refused to be slaves of his unacceptable choices. We stuck to our decisions as tough as it was, he realized we had enough and decided to take control of his health. (He now controls his diabetes).

    This was the best thing we could have done for him and ourselves. We can't force others to make better choices. We can be there to love and support them if they want and need us to help and educate them (if they want it).

    People with addictions who choose not to get better don't realize how selfish that is to those who love them. Sometimes tough love is the only resort.

    I hope this is not your situation or that it becomes your situation. Be strong, education for all involved could save so much heart ache.

    1669 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/10/2016 3:28:12 PM
    From a 63 1/2 year old that has your dad's exact condition, let me say that changing one's life style is terribly hard no matter the circumstances. I once weighed in at 375 lbs now I am at 275 but have been at 238. My exercise and change of eating habits has helped but I still must take medicine to control my condition. It is so very easy to give up and not try. What impacted me the most was my loved ones preaching to me get up an exercise or to eat right instead of what I wanted. One day they quit preaching. When they quit preaching then all of a sudden I decided to try to get fit. It is something about us baby boomers. We just hate being told what to do especially by those that truly care. Good luck on your journey and remember that your dad is on his own journey. Lets just keep on keeping on
    1669 days ago
    taking meds, not mess. Darn auto correct.
    1669 days ago
    it is a difficult choice between enjoying things you like and taking mess, or doing the hard work, making yourself a priority, investing the time which does require effort. It's a daily struggle.
    1669 days ago
    I'm sorry. Remember that you are setting a good example for your kids.

    I was at a gathering a few years ago and declined the pecan pie. When I was urged to eat it, I said I was diabetic but controlling it with diet so I didn't need meds. One of the women there said she was so glad when she started taking insulin so she can eat whatever she wants and just increase her insulin! I was appalled, but I guess that's a fairly common reaction.
    1669 days ago
    I feel for you. I learnt some years ago you can't impose change on people, even if it is for their own good. Yoir dad is probably terrified and like many people his reaction is to bury his head in the sand. Just keep on doing what you are doing.
    1669 days ago
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