My School Situation - The End

Monday, November 16, 2015

A dear friend recently asked me "has your school situation resolved itself yet?"
I've been procrastinating about writing this blog, but here is the answer:

It has. I resigned.

That's the short story. The longer explanation is this:

IF I had continued to fight, and gone into arbitration, it would immediately become public record. Anyone reviewing my resume, could look me up, and most likely the next thing (being the most recent) would be that I had been brought up on tenure charges. The second thing, is IF I had continued, and had gone into arbitration, and the arbitrator ruled against me, I would have no recourse, no route of appeal.

So, yes, I resigned. Am I happy with that? No. I'm past being angry. It isn't good to hold on to anger that doesn't serve a purpose. I am still sad about how things were handled. I think it's a disgrace to the school system where I taught for 16 years, that they would treat one of their employees in this way. Needless to say, I won't be recommending any new college graduates to go teach there.

So, I'm preparing to move back in with my husband. Yes, we've lived separately for a good number of years, but we've both grown and learned a lot about each other during that time. I'm not in a position financially to do anything else. I'm planning on putting in for early retirement from the public school system. I'll still be able to substitute teach if I want to. I'm preparing to have a garage sale to sell off my accrued collection of early childhood materials.

I'm entertaining ideas to substitute teach, to find a part time teaching position in a nursery school, and to focus more on my crafts. I'm enjoying not having to get up at 5 am to get to school by 7:30 in order to get a decent parking spot. I'm enjoying not having to do lesson plans. I'm enjoying not being stress out. I'm enjoying not bending over backwards to please administrators who have nothing good or nice to say about anything that you do. Don't miss one bit of all of that. I DO miss the kids.

The garage sale is this weekend. I'm actually looking forward to it!

Thank you for all of your caring concern. I do appreciate it!

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  • SALAM4545

    For what it's worth, I think that you did the right thing, in light of your heart problems and the stress this whole situation has put upon you.
    1995 days ago
  • no profile photo CD14643906
    So good to know what's happening with you, though l'm sorry you had to go through this unpleasantness. To quote my long gone mother's (frequent) comment to me, "It's the beginning of a new chapter in your life."

    In hopes of adding a note of seasonal cheer, here's a little poem from Shel Silverstein:

    “I made myself a snowball
    As perfect as can be.
    I thought I'd keep it as a pet,
    And let it sleep with me.
    I made it some pajamas
    And a pillow for it's head.
    Then last night it ran away,
    But first - It wet the bed.”

    ― Shel Silverstein

    “And all the colors I am inside have not been invented yet."

    ― Shel Silverstein
    2027 days ago
    Spoken like a true teacher. It is always, "I'll miss the kids."
    2029 days ago
    I came by to see how your year was going, and I read this! To you I offer, well done! The beauty of growing older is the learning that occurred while living. Yay for doing what was right for you. There is life beyond a traditional class room full of kids. The best part about teaching...the kids! The worst...the nonsense. Annnnnd sweet lady, waaaaaay to much nonsense has been heaped your way. Cheers to you as you find your will find your way to the next chapter in your life. Wishing you only the best, deb
    2039 days ago
    Sorry to hear you resigned, but sounds like you made the best decision you could. I wish you luck with deciding what you want to do going forward as well as with your yard sale!
    2041 days ago
  • JANET552
    Thanks for sharing the result. I had been wondering. I am so sorry for the treatment you endured and for the students' loss of a good teacher. Best wishes on the garage sale (I saved my absolutely favorite books despite two garage sales since I retired). Best wishes, too, moving forward.
    2042 days ago
  • DS9KIE
    that is awful how you were treated after 16 years...but I'm glad its working out in the end...hey not getting up at 5am has got to be the best part
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    2042 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/18/2015 12:05:53 AM
    I was just wondering about your situation. You made the only decision possible under the circumstances.

    You know my position on the status of teachers in our society. We accept the attitude that “we don’t do it for the money, we do it for the kids” and many of us even wear that banner proudly. It is true after all. However, it makes it easy for administrators and voters (at budget time) to treat us badly.

    When I retired in 2007 after a very successful and generally rewarding career teaching HS math and computer science which morphed into being the technology coordinator for the last 10 years, I asked my principal why he made my life so difficult with his impossible demands. He said that it was up to me to have said NO.

    Individuals can’t say no. We don’t have the power. Teachers need a united voice to stand up for ourselves.

    That said, I love retirement and I hope your situation allows you to enjoy it too.

    2042 days ago
  • no profile photo CD14575754
    Most of us now get "The Golden-Kick-In-The- Arse"... and feel resentful and betrayed by it. To you it was all about your kids and your beloved career... to them it's only dollars and cents. Harsh reality, but true. I'm glad you've moved on and begun to enjoy all that dropping the yoke entails. Now it's all about what you want to do. No more accountability... only freedom to choose your path each day. Good luck with the sale... and lucky-guy to your ex.... emoticon emoticon

    2042 days ago
    It seems that there have been some times in my life that I have had to "reinvent" myself to accomodate the changes that were happening, usually things that I had no control over. It sounds like you are already well on your way.

    Here in Missouri, we who get retirement from the state retirement fund have to be careful not to work at a similar institution over a certain number of hours annually and also not earn over a certain amount of $$$. Is that the case in your state? My "dream job" - 2 days per week at the community college near where I live - came with its own set of "things" I had to watch - I started out being able to teach 4 classes in the spring/fall and then when the "work ratio" was defined to include actual preparation as well, I couldn't teach more than 3! That was a hit to the budget, but I eventually "rolled" with it.

    As this is not about me, however, know that I will look forward to what is happening with your plans! emoticon
    2043 days ago
  • SEAGLASS1215
    I hate to pull out the old cliches like: Things happen for reason and If it's meant to be... blah blah, but I am finding that these things actually do help to remember when it seems like we aren't getting what we 'want' in life but maybe, just maybe, because something better is meant for us.
    It sounds like you have a positive outlook and a good plan in place - I wish you all the best with your new life and new adventures that await you!
    2043 days ago
  • BERRY4
    I would have to say that working w/ kids is one thing. Dealing w/ administration & "systems" is a whole other level of INSANITY! -- So sorry to hear about the outcome. As always, it is the KIDS who LOSE when someone who loves to teach gets shown the door.
    I do hope you will find encouragement in unexpected places as you move forward from here!
    2043 days ago
    2043 days ago
  • LINDA!
    What a shame that the school system has treated you so poorly. It is a loss for the students, as well. I hope that you enjoy some time for yourself. Keep your head held high. emoticon
    2043 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/16/2015 6:05:15 PM
    I'm really sorry to hear they gave you the shaft. This seems to be the trend lately, particularly in our state.
    2043 days ago
    I am happy to hear that you are handling your situation so well and have some good plans for your future. I am happy you do not have to deal with the stress and unrealistic expectations put on teachers these days. Teaching has become a real nightmare. I feel so sorry for the new ones. Enjoy yourself, take care of yourself, You deserve it!
    2043 days ago
    emoticon It took me more than 2 months to reconcile with my anger when I retired. But I have NO regrets that I did. It was one of the best things I've ever done and I am sure in time, you will feel it was for you as well. emoticon
    2043 days ago
    Sorry that things turned out as they did, BUT have to do nothing but admire your attitude in handling the situation. I wish you nothing but the best because that's what you deserve.

    Much luck.
    2043 days ago
    im sorry to hear this im glad you moving forward maybe god has a new plan for you im glad you have your husband to lean on you seem to know you wasnt treated right and they wrong for that you take care of you and your heart because you are a sweet lady im glad i met you here emoticon emoticon
    2043 days ago
    I'm so sorry Karen. It just isn't fair, but hey life isn't fair, we all know that by our age. It sounds like you are doing what is best for you, and you are relatively at peace with it. I wish you nothing but happiness and luck on your new adventure. emoticon

    BTW I hate to bake. emoticon
    2043 days ago
    I have friends who are teacher's or TA and they all feel the same way. They love the kids but not the environment. It sounds like you're doing the right thing for yourself and your sanity.

    Good luck on this next chapter of you rlife.
    2043 days ago
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