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Terminally Negative is Toxic!

Sunday, September 20, 2015

Do you have friends who are terminally negative? Don't they wear you down? Do you see them at the other end of the grocery aisle and try to move somewhere else in the store before they see you?

People never treat them right and they never get a square deal on anything. One of my own nearest and dearest is like this, and I have even heard God blamed for many particular situations. Here is the most common one I hear: my adult son, daughter, brother, grandchild, ________ [fill in the blank] has moved in and won't get a job, clean their room, wash the dishes, _______[fill in the blank]. Their cigarette smoke is stinking up your house, their significant other who has also apparently moved in eats all your food... I'll stop but you get the picture.

My first question has to be why did you let them move in to start with? Question two would be did you discuss their exit strategies? People can't take advantage of you unless you allow it. And they will continue to take advantage of you until you grow a backbone and stop it! You have no one to blame for your situation but yourself because you are the only person who can stop it!

Your husband makes you wait on him! Really? Your children won't eat what you cook! Really? The hospital, bank, grocery store, etc., doesn't meet your high standards of perfection so you take out your frustrations on the staff! Really? If you don't expect and aren't getting decent treatment from your family, why expect it from anyone else? And why whine about it? Enjoy it, revel in it, get down and roll in it if that is what you want to do.

Or get off your whining rear and change it. Get counseling, get rid of your unwanted boarders, square off with the spouse on expectations. In short, get a life!

But don't tell me about it! I have my own toxicities! LOL

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    You're so right - these people are EXHAUSTING!
    1278 days ago
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    1279 days ago
    Stick with winners which are people that have what you want...
    1279 days ago
    AMEN!!! No one can make another person happy. It is each person's choice to be happy.
    1279 days ago
  • GEORGE815
    Great comment on life.
    1279 days ago
    Yes! I have a coworker who is chronically negative. I have tried to help her see the positives in numerous different events but she is just determined to be unhappy. After awhile I just don't feel like hearing the complaints. It starts to wear me down. My philosophy is to try to find the positive and if all else fails you just have to find something to laugh about. Life is way to short to be miserable all of the time. emoticon
    1279 days ago
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