Terminally Negative is Toxic!
Sunday, September 20, 2015
Do you have friends who are terminally negative? Don't they wear you down? Do you see them at the other end of the grocery aisle and try to move somewhere else in the store before they see you?
People never treat them right and they never get a square deal on anything. One of my own nearest and dearest is like this, and I have even heard God blamed for many particular situations. Here is the most common one I hear: my adult son, daughter, brother, grandchild, ________ [fill in the blank] has moved in and won't get a job, clean their room, wash the dishes, _______[fill in the blank]. Their cigarette smoke is stinking up your house, their significant other who has also apparently moved in eats all your food... I'll stop but you get the picture.
My first question has to be why did you let them move in to start with? Question two would be did you discuss their exit strategies? People can't take advantage of you unless you allow it. And they will continue to take advantage of you until you grow a backbone and stop it! You have no one to blame for your situation but yourself because you are the only person who can stop it!
Your husband makes you wait on him! Really? Your children won't eat what you cook! Really? The hospital, bank, grocery store, etc., doesn't meet your high standards of perfection so you take out your frustrations on the staff! Really? If you don't expect and aren't getting decent treatment from your family, why expect it from anyone else? And why whine about it? Enjoy it, revel in it, get down and roll in it if that is what you want to do.
Or get off your whining rear and change it. Get counseling, get rid of your unwanted boarders, square off with the spouse on expectations. In short, get a life!
But don't tell me about it! I have my own toxicities! LOL