Wednesday, September 02, 2015
Today certainly has not gone quite as I pictured it would. At first it appeared it was on track.... vet visit, school with the kids, lunch and dropping Isaac off for physical therapy. That's where it changed.
His attitude totally flipped the minute we walked into the fitness center and he was completely rude to Kenzie. I am sure some of this is stemming from the fact that things are changing (she is done on the 13th and the new gal starts) but this is still unacceptable behavior that is being displayed. It got worse.... Ignored her, fought with her, hid from her, accused her of doing something to hurt him and then said "I didn't do anything wrong" when I asked him why he entered the house so rudely. I sent him to the back yard immediately and he has stayed there for 3 hours other than 2 bathroom breaks. He has a spot in the middle of the lawn to sit. I then gathered up all his favorites...rip board, books, Wii games, drawing pads, legos, radio.... and they are now sitting in the living room in a corner to be untouched until further notice. He also lost the right to play with the neighbor kids and to watch TV before bed. Tim and I both agree this is NOT a lack of skill causing the behavior. It is a choice. The specialist says otherwise, but the trend we are seeing from the notes being kept of his behaviors shows we are right...choices.
I could handle the lack of skill. I could even handle the 11 year old boy choices. The sort of choices he is making....I don't handle these well.
So...I pray. I can't do this on my own and I don't want to.
***Update: After I left for an appointment Isaac finally "blew up" and was able to voice the emotions that were going on inside. We were right that it had to do with Kenzie leaving. His words: "Why is Kenzie leaving me?" "Why does she have to take that job?" "Why can't she just keep this job?" They discussed how inappropriate his behavior to those emotions were and how he had to make it right on Saturday with an apology and telling her how he feels. Thankful we now know he can make an emotional attachment to someone. Many autistic people can't.***
Saturday morning is the day both workers will be with him for physical therapy and at this time so will his dad. This behavior is not going to be allowed to continue. I will have to be there at first as I need to do paperwork with the new worker, but Tim believes he needs to be the one who stays there during their session.
Heading out here shortly to get paperwork done with my first client for Support Brokering. Maegann wants to go with me and I have no issue with that. I'll gladly buy her a steamer and enjoy the company on the drive there and back.
Tomorrow...gym, school and a Jamberry rep is dropping by party stuff for Maegann. She's hosting a gathering on the 25th.